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Members grappled with the heartbreaking and high-stakes decision of when to stop someone with cognitive impairment from driving, sharing... Read more
Dad had a fit the day Dr. Harris told him he couldn’t drive. Dr. Harris was kind enough to let Dad take a simulator test (twice) which he failed miserably. Dad has all kinds of reasons why he didn’t do well and is sure he should be allowed to drive. We (mostly) solved this problem by telling Dad he can drive as soon as he passes the driving exam at the place that tests people with cognitive impairment. If he passes great, here’s the keys, if he fails they will take his drivers license and he will have to get a state ID (his worst nightmare). This takes the onus off of us and puts it back on Dad, without being hurtful.
I totally agree with Ed. Sometimes drastic measures should be taken before an accident happens and someone is hurt. I need to take your advice as well before something bad happens. Thank you for posting suggestions on this difficult decision!
Katherine, you are at a critical juncture. If your husband drives and has an accident, he could injure others and himself. An accident could be both a personal and a finacial tragedy for your family. Since you have to live with and care for your husband, delegate the task of telling him he can no longer drive to his doctor. Contact your husband’s doctor and tell him/her your concerns. Ask the doctor to intervene to prevent your husband from driving including the threat that the doctor will inform the state Department of Motor Vehicles that your husband is impaired. Serious steps, but a lot is at stake.
Hide keys! Take them out if possible so they don’t get bored!
Way to go! Great idea☺️