Don’t worry about the bathing. So long as they don’t stink it’s ok. My husband is cold so I just stick to warm towel cleaning face and hands every day and dressing quickly.

I am in the same boat "mom complains to others". I have to just let it roll off my back and know I am doing the right thing. I walk away when she starts to verbally attack me or start unhealthy conversations about complaints. It is NOT as easy as typing the words yet necessary to keep my head in check of self care that is NOT being selfish. Her POA and I agree if she becomes physical then it's time to consider placement options. For now she is in her villa.

Funny my dad complains to my brother about me like a high school student talking about their pain in the butt mother. I just take it as another symptom of his disease.

My wife doesn't like to shower, says she bathes herself, sponge baths. when the caregiver is here she does ok, and takes her bath.

My mom get irritated with me when its time for her shower. She tells me that she can't stand me and that I make her sick. She even called me a tramp. Its hurtful, but my support encourages not to take it personal because it is not her it is the disease. I am learning different ways to approach her with gentleness. Still and yet everyone does not have the same symptoms. I have to watch her take her meds. I put the pills in her hand and hand her the water, and remind her to take them or she will just hold them in her hand. It gives me great joy to be able to do this, but at the same time it can be very emotionally draining. It is heartbreaking to witness my mother in this condition. Sometimes I breakdown and cry. This is not my mother this is the disease. I have to keep reminding myself.