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When Is It Time?

When Is It Time?

When is it time to start talking nursing homes? My mom still knows where she is and who we all are, for the most part. Her speech is going quickly and my sister feels that within a year or so, she won’t be able to speak coherently. After a really bad couple of months, and now an even worse day, we’re talking about the possibility of all of us coming together to have “the talk” sooner than later. But is it too soon? My dad refuses to make any plans and, honestly, I don’t think my dad can… read more

A myALZteam Member said:

You are in the same situation that we are going through right now with regards to my wife also called Lisa, she is at i would say level 5 1/2 -6 out of 7 with early onset and PCA diagnosed when she was 50 now shes 55 a good day is that she knows who i am and she is not pacing up and down the hallway hiiting the walls and saying “Ok lets Go! At the top of her voice, i just picked up Namenda to see if that calms her down, (thank you all for recommending it i saw a huge forum on this site)i am not ready to put her in the home but her case worker and Dr say i should start checking out memory care facilities now, my middle child will not even discuss it yet my youngest(15) and oldest have talked about it, the Dr says not just for her safety but our safety and mental health we should be concerned about. I also may not be able to afford one so i just dont know anymore, l say put your faith into yourselves and also know what she would like to do if she could tell you, i do know that my lisaand i always said if either one of us has to be put on a machine to live please do not let them,,,,,,,,,I will pray for you and your family and i know at the end of the day you and I will make the right decisions🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

posted 10 months ago
A myALZteam Member said:

I live in Ohio and I worked for the welfare office for 19 years. It was my understanding that the nursing home can not sell your home until the last living person dies or moves out. Medicare will pay the first 3 months of NH stay. You will need to apply for Medicaid for him before you do anything else. I hope this helps. Much love and peace. Amy

posted 9 months ago
A myALZteam Member said:

My dad is in the same exact situation. We were able to contact the office of aging and they got him set up with the states insurance program that helps cover costs for the most part. They have a list of places that take state or private insurance and some places will set it up that they will take a monthly payment based on SSI. Unfortunately there isn't much else to do other than putting it into a trust or someone else's name this way the state cannot touch it at all. Good news for now is that if your add is still alive they cannot take anything until he passes so you have some time to do it.

I also have learned that there is an insurance that covers nursing home costs BUT the problem is if either parent was already diagnosed then chances are they would not be approved for the insurance. The information is out on ALZ.org and talks about it but if you google insurance for nursing homes you should be able to find out all you need to know about it.

posted 10 months ago
A myALZteam Member said:

Every family is different, and truthfully, would you want to be told to place your mother? Why not use this time to explore memory care facilities, get Power of Attorney, wills, living wills in order. Do your homework now to be in a better position later to make the decision.

posted 10 months ago
A myALZteam Member said:

Please find an elder law attorney. Did your mom worked for over ten years? If true she should be qualified coverage of Memory care facility. But before taki6her there please ask if they take Medicaid.
Good luck

posted 10 months ago
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