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My Mother Is Constantly Asking Us To Take Her Home (she Is At Home). Suggestions?

My Mother Is Constantly Asking Us To Take Her Home (she Is At Home). Suggestions?

This happens from the time she wakes up until she goes to bed at night. She has started getting verbally aggressive sometimes when we tell her she is at home. Today she threatened to slap my dad if he didn't take her home right then. He's 87 and I also worry about his health as well.
She seems to have gotten much worse in the last couple weeks. She used to recognize the house much of the time, now she never does.

A myALZteam Member said:

My mom does the same thing. It’s very difficult, especially since I promised her I’d keep her home and never put her in a nursing facility. About a month ago we all began telling her that she’s going home tomorrow morning and ask her what time she wants to leave. That seems to have worked. She’s no longer agitated over it as much as she was and I guess she feels like she has some control because she picks what time we are “leaving”. In the beginning it was hard because I felt like I was lying to her but I realize now that it lessens her agitation so that’s ultimately what we want since there’s no magic pill. It’s a repetitive cycle we’ve all gotten used to. Good luck and hang in there.

posted 9 days ago
A myALZteam Member said:

My hubby also is stuck on”going home”. It occasionally still drives me crazy but it happened in the house he built with his own hands too before we moved. We still have same furniture and family pictures on walls but that doesn’t reassure him. I have found that many times he just wants to go to bed/sleep and wants me to come too.
Other times earlier in day we call one of his sisters or brothers for a chat.
When we do make the
2 1/2 hour drive to his mother, he’s never very interactive and always willing to get back in car with me to go home - but once we get back, it starts all over and over again.
The aggressiveness you describe would be a problem her doctor could give her an rx to help. I hated adding meds but his aggression did neither of us any good. Good luck, many many of us struggle with the “going home “ issue. I will certainly be watching for other ideas too.

posted 9 days ago
A myALZteam Member said:

Keeps confusing her location as Alabama (childhood home) and Kentucky (where her sister lived) or Ohio where she has been for 50 years. We repeatedly say Ohio like it's no big deal .

posted 9 days ago
A myALZteam Member said:

When Mom wants to go home I point out things she has kept in her home since I was a child, and then explain she is home. So far this has helped.

posted 5 days ago
A myALZteam Member said:

My wife does that at least 20 times a day. Sometimes I just try and ignore it, other times I'll say something like, "I have to wash the dishes". That might work. The other day she look at me and said "I want you to take me home" and I didn't say anything, I just looked at her. Then she said quite sternly, "I mean it"

posted 9 days ago
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