My husband has hallucinations of people being in our home. He talks to these people and gets upset when they don’t answer him. He thinks they are mad at him. How do I respond to him. I have tried telling him they aren’t really there then he’s upset with me for not believing him. So he’s upset/angry either way.
This is a daily struggle for my wife (she is 60) as she believes there are people in our home but that they are also using/taking her things. A few things that I do that seem to help include: explore with her what is missing or moved and guide her to a new place to store them which could include my putting them somewhere safe, acknowledging that these people are real but disavowing any knowledge of why they do the things they do, finally, understanding that these are just moments in time and to live in the moment. These moments are important for her to know that I am there to help her and not condescend, patronize or minimize these events. That said, they don’t always work and sometimes things drag out a bit but staying in the moment is, IMO critical to helping her get past that moment.
Marilyn, this is when your acting skills come in. Their hallucinations are real to them. Agreement or let him know it's the chair making shadows and you also thought that too. 😔 Whatever works. It's not easy. Hope your days get better. May you find comfort in myalzteam. Hugs!
Run to your neurologist and ask about getting your loved ones on an antipsychotic medication ASAP.
Having a son w schizophrenia and now a husband w Alzheimer’s your loved one will have more peace and so will you.
Always agree w how the feel and what they see. It’s their reality. Empathize is better option. You’re doing great.
You can do this.
Mary
Yes, every day. This seems to be one of the hallmarks of this horrid disease.
I also get the questions a lot "where is everyone" or "where did everyone go".or "are we the only ones here?"