You need to just walk away....if you can leave him do go for a drive....i do that....enough is enough....deep breathing is very important as we rob our brain of oxygen when we get really mad..and we dont breathe properly......in through the nose out thru pursed lips....six times! ! We need to practice this everyday to save our own brain ....I have heard 40% of carers get Alz too....dont be one of them!! 😚😚😚
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I am sitting here , reading your posts and crying for all of you. I have lived through the mean , nasty hurtful part of this disease for 12 years. It is OK to not be OK. Get away from it as often as you can. As long as your loved one is safe.AND , try to remember the love you once shared , the good times. I have always been the one to fix the problems in our home, the nurturer and I think my hubby would get angry because I wouldn't , couldn't fix him , make what was happening to him go away. He has been in a nursing home for the past year and is in the final stage of this horrible disease.He still knows me and is much calmer due to the drugs they give him . I survived this and you will too but not without scars . I shared my QTIP reminder and I am so glad it is helping you @A myALZteam Member 1937 . We all need to remember the 3 C's We didn't CAUSE it , We can't Control it , and We can't CURE it. . All we can do is to continue to love them. Sending so many hugs.💟 to all of you. SusieQ.

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Get out of the room just long enough to stop the tyrade . Then go back. It's hard on them too if you are gone to long. We have to remember they can't help it it's frustration even if it doesn't sound like it. But don't let it get to far before you walk out

At the moment we live in a two story (moving next week) but my escape is usually just going upstairs and not responding unless I absolutely have to (hubby can get pretty hateful and hurtful). I do remember a tip from one of our other care givers / place Qtips around the house and ever time you see one think: Quit taking it personally. This has really helped me. Btw I have left the house a few times for about an hour before I learned the Qtips method but would usually check in with one of my daughters. Hubby would usually settle down after about an hour or so of being alone. Good luck with your hubby.

Cherish those good days where they do remember things , like going for lunch like you said @A myALZteam Member 84 . I know you CAN get through this , but not without the support from your team on this site. Yes, you will feel the need to scream and vent as much as you can.Start a journal if you haven't already. Writing your feelings down (good or bad ) really helps. @A myALZteam Member 84 , thanks for your kind words , I am so glad that I can help others through my experiences on this journey. We must remember to breathe and laugh as much as we can.. Sending hugs.💟. SusieQ

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