My husband is very agitated fr early evening to the time I put him in to bed. He fights, argues, hits & get grabs my arms and pushes me away, pushinge down or twists my arm. He is very strong and can get very aggressive. He says no to everything at night. Are these signs if sundowners & if so what can I do?
from what I have learned so far about sundowners it is when they have these symptoms and possible mood changes, aggitation , increased pacing, fidgeting, sleeplessness. I am in the same boat as you as to what I can do to calm her but my mom seems to for right cycle in and out of events fairly quickly so they will leave her be for a few minutes if she is non-compliant with their wishes(right now that is one of her sundowners mood changes she gets mean and tells them to leave her room) and then they come back 10 minutes later and she forgets that she threw them out. there has been only one time that they have called me as her anchor to come down and talk her through the situation and become a voice of reason for her. It worked luckily. I also had a brain child of an idea that may or may not help anyone out there whose parents find comfort in stuffed animals for company. I bought a record a bear that plays a one minute message we as caretakers can record for our special someone. Mom when I came to talk to her that night seemed terrified. So on my bear I recorded in my voice of course, Hi mom it's me Bobbi. I here, don't be afraid. Remember you're not alone. God said He would never leave you nor forsake you. for my first message. Sure it was a ten second message but she seemed to calm right down at night and go to bed when they asked her to and not be terrified. after that if they had problems with her they needed help with I would find a scripture for example about being kind to her neighbor.etc. Silly idea but she sleeps with that thing every night and though she has a hard time pushing the stomach the nurses do it for her often and especially when they see her struggling.
Cynthia, I am so sorry to hear about your awful day! I can relate to that all to well. I worked retail for 10 years along with being an Insurance Agent full time. I was so stressed & crying all the time. I thought I was ready to loose my mind. i finally had to quit due to no other choices at the time, it my job or my husband. Your information is very helpful. The doctor called in a script today for him to take early evening. The doctor also felt it was symptoms of Sundowners without seeing him. I am just happier that I can give him something to calm him down before I really get hurt. I have had two very close calls so far. I pray for you & your husband that life will get a little better. This is a horrible way of living. I have gotten closer to God and prayer. This has helped alot!
Yes it sounds like sundowning. Talk to his doctor so he is put on seroquel to calm him down. If he cant sleep give him melatonin vitamins at night. They get confused at night more. My dad has Sundowning & he was very aggressive also. The doctor suggested giving him chamomile tea & melatonin to relax him. Sending you prayers
Please let your doctor know right away about this aggression and he may prescribe an anti-psychotic med! My husband has taken 50 mg. Seroquel at noon and 100 mg. at bedtime for about two years!
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