Husband last night accused perspective Grandson in law of taking £20 out of his wallet. No matter how much I said it couldn’t be as it was on the table all night & kids weren’t near it he is adamant. Then this morning he said another £20 has gone missing!!! Again accuses Granddaughter/ bf but they didn’t even come in the bedroom where he had it under his pillow!! Is this not unusual in Alz/ Dementia condition?? Need help as to what to do??
I have witnessed this same senerio in many occasions in my time as a medical chaplain. Consult your medical provider for specific questions. When you understand the background it may provide more understanding to the entire disease process. Love and blessings. Eddie
This is a common thing. My husband accuses someone of stealing his as check. Knives or whatever comes in his mind . It’s a hard thing to deal with . Just try telling him you will find out tomorrow who stole whatever and it should settle him down. Good luck
This was one of the first clues my father might have Alzheimers. We lived together and he had a “talk”with me to discuss someone was in his safe taking his coin collection. He wanted to put me on “notice”. I was so upset and hurt he thought I would ever do such a thing. When i talked to my mom about this, she confessed she had been seeing a lot more signs. An appointment was made shortly thereafter, with the diagnosis confirmed. It was so easy for me to not be hurt anymore. I understood what was really happening, my dad was taking his coins to the bank and cashing them in..at face value. Its so important and difficult to understand where all this paranoia comes from. Their world is turning inside out and they dont know how or why, they only know things are changing and they can’t explain it themselves or the omes they love. How frightening to know there are times in any given day you don’t know your own name, let alone the people you live with. Be patient, understand it’s the disease, not them. Assure your family you know the truth. Dont be angry with your father. Sometimes the only way to calm 5hem down is to go along with their version and softly tell them you will take care of things. Everything will be ok. It’s not easy, it doesn’t always work, but going into their world occasionally is all we’ve got.
Thank you for your time/replies all. X
I think it can be part of this disease. When we first moved mom thought I gave my child away. (My daughter has children of her own)She was very mad at me for days. She no longer believes that. So not sure if I can help. One thing I do when mom obsesses is I tell her we will see or look into it. Sometimes I tell her that that is terrible and we will figure it out. Sending hugs