I care for a man with Parkinson's and I use the small styrofoam balls you can get from the $1 store and stick the utensil through the middle. It gives him more to grip and makes eating so much easier and less messy

You want want to focus on serving more finger foods and forget about the utensils all together if they frustrate your loved one. There really are a lot of finger food options when you come to think about it.

Utensils are now available with bendy adjustable heads to position for ease

Sometimes even prompting a loved one by putting food on the fork and removing unnecessary other utensils simplify the activity
Ie put the fork in the potato and put it in their hands sometimes helps
The initiative of process is sometimes eliminated in their mind so we can help by starting the process
Also sometimes too much food seems over welming putting small portions in front will also help with what they see
I found with some of my folks if there was a lot in front them they would feel overwhelmed

Hi. Sharon we use those. Type of spoon for our children that have dis ability. They work. Great. We even had the kind that you wrapped around their little hands