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Cirencester, UK

My father (84) has been getting more forgetful for the last 3 years. He is a retired farmer, still living on the farm, with mum, who has also been sliding very slowly, over the past 10 years, into a muddle of not remembering
I live next door, and pop in every morning and evening to make sure everything is ok. They need reminding what day it is. Even what time of year more recently, as Dad thinks Christmas is coming
Some 15 years ago, Dad let a builder friend have some sheds to store… read more

January 19, 2018
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Members offered heartfelt support to someone navigating their father's false accusations of theft against friends, a painful symptom of his... Read more

Members offered heartfelt support to someone navigating their father's false accusations of theft against friends, a painful symptom of his advancing dementia. Several members shared similar experiences of loved ones becoming paranoid about missing money or possessions, describing how they validate feelings without arguing over facts, keep written communications as treasured keepsakes, and print out documents to provide reassurance even when comprehension has faded. A recurring theme was the emotional toll of witnessing someone you love lose trust in those closest to them, met with encouragement to adapt strategies as the disease progresses and to lean on the community for understanding that family members outside caregiving often cannot provide.

A myALZteam Member

My husband did this for awhile, but gradually this behavior went away. Now he is worried about his stock accounts, every day he wants an accounting of everything. I print out reports (he has lost his ability to read) and give them to him, he looks at them for a second, then says he will study them later.

January 29, 2018
A myALZteam Member

Contented dementia is a great book 5yrs in but everything changes as the years go on so you need to change how you think...good luck m..

January 29, 2018
A myALZteam Member

What confusion that must cause you and your dad. Maybe keep the letter as writing how he felt maybe the only communication abilities he has. Sad we all experience the pain of this horrible disease. Very helpful to me. I'm borrowing maybe my husband can do the same? Writing his feelings? Thanks for sharing

January 20, 2018
A myALZteam Member

It's so sad an hard to know on times how to react , its good we can find comfort in writing on here how we feel knowing that carers on here know and understand how we are feeling some family members ask how you are an when you say how your day going if it's not good they change the conversation X

January 19, 2018
A myALZteam Member

Hi sue how are things going for you I've had a lot going on , Ray is very pleasant but it's hard work 24/7 I have been ill myself with the stress but picking up again lots love ..m

March 23, 2018

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