The Dr has sent a letter to DMV stating that she is not mentally or physically able to drive, & she just got a letter stating her license will be suspended at the end of the month. My mom hasn't had any issues driving, never forgets where she is parked or going, she lives alone & is capable of taking care of herself. My question, has anyone had this experience & how do you tell them that can't drive any longer?
GayleC, the most important thing to remember with your mother is safety. We liked to think that since she was not to bad, if she just drove close to home she would be okay. The Dr. reminded us that, it just takes one "mistake or misjudgement".
For us, it was mom driving home. Out of nowhere, she suddenly couldn't remember the driveway. She panicked, floored it, hit the mailbox pulling it out of its 2 ft cement encasement and threw it into the middle of the driveway. She got up to the house and went inside. My dad had been following her with the tractor. She didn't remember a thing. Had no idea where the gouge in the side of the car came from. I was glad it was the mailbox not one of the grandkids.
Taking her drivers license was awful. We even had to put a toggle switch on the car to keep her from driving. She still wants to drive, but we know that her reaction times, attention span and ability to anticipate situations are just not good enough to ever have her back behind the wheel. We have a good community bus service here, maybe that could be an option for you?
I don’t know what DMV is, but it’s the Drs responsibility to notify the RTA about the medical condition. Then the RTA will request a driving test be done. My mother failed her test, so lost her licence, they gave her an L plate licence, but no one would let her drive.
This happened with my husband by law the dr has to report it. My husband’s license was pulled by a special division of the DMV. Our local hospital had a program for driver rehab of sorts. He was evaluated, we requested a one day drivers permit he was given a behind the wheel test by the program. He passed it was recommended he get his license back but with restrictions. Next you appeal to the DMV for a hearing present your test results, if granted you then have to do a behind the wheel test with the DMV. He passed and was reissued his drivers license. He still drives but is starting to get lost at night which he usually doesn’t drive after dark. It it a very sensitive issue. He usually doesn’t fight me about driving I think he is relieved that he doesn’t have to drive often. When he does drive it is local within our little town. Hope this helps good luck to you.
Yes. That happens. To jim. I told. Him your doctor. Told the DMV. And they took his license. I read the paper to him because by then he couldn't really read that. Well. It was hard at first. I just told him you like people and you don't want to hurts your self. Or anyone. Else. Do you and he said He don't want to get. Hurt. But if you feel that your mom can still drive. You can get a Appointment for her. And the DMV will give her a special. Test.
My dad's doctor told him over 3 years ago not to drive anymore. But it took almost 2 years to get him to quit. He bought a new pickup 4-1/2 years ago, and within 4 months had hit a cement pole by an ATM machine, hit the retaining wall in my driveway at least 4 times, and backed into the steps by our back door. I was so afraid he would have an accident, I went to his doctor for help (with no luck VA doctor). Finally I told him his insurance wouldn't cover him if he had an accident. It was all I could think of at that point. I wish you luck.