Is there a 'reason' he needs a shower more than once a week? The reason I ask, my husband has given me grief on showering as well, so I have decided, that is a battle I choose not to fight! He very rarely goes out anymore, just sits in front of the television watching movies. When his caregiver is scheduled to come, I say to him, "Kandy is due to come tomorrow. Do you think you might want to shower for her?" He usually will tell me he thinks that is a good idea. He will also get one whenever he has to go the doctor's. My husband was always very meticulous when it came to his personal hygiene and if he understood what was going on, would be appalled at himself! Anyway, all that being said, pick your battles....some days there will be many! Good luck!

Have the same problem with my husband.... will not shower, says he doesn’t do anything to get dirty... try to incourage him to shower” it might make you feel better, fresh”......

I have a nurse to come in the morning to give my wife a shower and assist in dressing her they do it In half an hour I do have to pay but find it very useful

I am so sorry. Is there a care home nearby where she can go for a bath and manicure? Social services might be able to help. Sadly I have just discovered that the man I "care for" has also a sort of autism and his reasoning is very basic. Keep your chin up

pick your battles. Sponge bath if he will tolerate this instead. Try telling him that the doctor ordered it. Suggest bath as many people with dementia find the shower scary. Use a humorous, fun approach. Have someone you trust try instead. Offer rewards like favorite foods when it is done. Calander for bath days and use stickers for when he does it. He puts the stickers on. and if all else fails, atleast change clothing, this time, and try again later