Coming up with a palatable excuse can be difficult. I would not always tell the whole truth, but some semblance of it. Perhaps you are going for work, church or with friends (just girls) and you will miss him, but be back soon. They forget what you tell them anyway, but be sure to call and touch base when able. We really need to take care of ourselves or we won't be of much use to others. Our girls watch out for their Dad when I go somewhere and that doesn't seem to bother him as much, plus we have pets who keep him company. He loses track of time, so I can be gone a week or so, and all he knows is I will return soon/sam

I struggle with the same issue anytime I go away. It's gotten to the point that telling the whole truth isn't the best. I hate lying, but trying to be totally honest and logical doesn't help him comprehend things any better...sometimes it creates even more questions. I think your idea of a girl's visit is good and just say it's for a short time, not a whole week. I use "the women's Bible study at church" for a lot of my outings, even if I'm going for most of the day. He loses track of time, anyway, and since the church is only 4 miles away, he doesn't stress over me being on the road. I can't really reason with him anymore, so I tell him what I think will be easy for him to handle. It's so hard, isn't it, but we have to take care of ourselves or we're no good for our loved ones. Love to all...

Like your husband, mine is just about as comfortable with our daughter as he is with me if i'm not nearby. The dog is a great comfort to him as long as he isn't worrying that she needs to go out or that no one has fed her. The only question he regularly repeats is "have the dogs eaten?" My RAC seems to be uncomfortable when he thinks I am too far away, like across town, so I've decided not to tell hm I will be flying from Dallas to FL. Also, my daughter thinks I should not tell him specifically that I will be with our niece since he is more likely to ask why he can't go if family is involved. I think you are right - I'll just tell him it is a few days of girl time. Each day seems to stand alone for him so I doubt he will have any concept of how long I'm away. I have to leave very early for the airport so I think I will be able to slip out with just a kiss while he's still in bed so there will be less memory of my leaving with a couple of bags. Thanks for taking time to respond - can you tell I'm nervous about this?

I feel your pain. My husband forgets to feed the dogs, cuz I usually do, so our girls will be sure they are okay. The only thing I worry about is him taking them for a walk early in the morning, but we live in a nice area of town and the neighbors know him. He hasn't gotten lost yet, but our daughter has him wear an ID on his shoes, which he is willing to do. Fewer details are best, as my husband can't remember what I have told him from one minute to the next, unless he writes it down. It is almost funny, but frustrating as well. I hope when you go on a trip you can enjoy yourself and not worry. It is best to be able to get away at times/sam

I am going through the same thing. I am putting off telling him for as long as I can.My husband will be spending the time with his brother. They are planning things for him to do. I know that he will not be happy. I don't know what words to use that don't make it sound like I don't want him to go, but we have taken him the last 2 years and each year has gotten worse. Caregivers don't get to relax on vacations. We make the best of the situation.
Please let me know if you find a way to tell your husband about your trip. Carolone