when a person with altzeimers or dementia says they want to go home it doesnt nessassary mean they want to go home it can be an expression of feeling insecure ask the staff to.make.him feel more secure maybe take some familiar items of furniture there people with dementia cant cope with change lots of tlc and reassurance and keeping busy check urine for uti if behaviour gets very bad and gets confused x

I am so sad that your family is experiencing this with your dad... I certainly don't have a solution, but some insight from my experience with my dad. Even though his care was at home, he wanted to go home. He asked for a year before he passed, if someone could please call his family and tell them he is waiting to go home.... So, I think that no matter where we provide care for our loved in these situations with memory, they can't comprehend what we are doing care wise... It seems they are only aware of the moment they are in. I so feel your sadness because even tho my husband and I made sure we were caring for dad on his property (we combined homes) to try to keep him home as he had requested, he still wanted to go home. It's baffling 😔
We are in year 13 of caregiving because mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a year following dads passing, and they just diagnosed early Parkinson's symptoms so this will be our newest challenge.

Wishing you a solution to calm his fear. Peace.

I think time is the only answer, as in time he will settle into the new routine. Your poor Mum how upsetting. I recall when my step father was in a home and back then Mum wasnt so bad but nothing on gods earth would of stopped her going to see him every day, early there and late home .
She was totally exhausted. He would rant on and on to her about coming home which she eventually did...much to my horror and she spent the next 3 years sitting with him doing nothing. For the social butterfly Mum was it was devestating and she went into deep depression but still managed to hide that well. She lost interest in doing anything and hence her dementia got worse. The step father died and she came out of the depression for a while and begun to go out again .....that lasted for about 6 months and as her alz was worse she stopped, guess it just got too hard for her. I bought her down to live with me and me be her carer. She slowly came out of the depression when I got her into dementia daycare 5 days a week and she just seems to live to go to the centre. She feels like she is going somewhere and doing something. hugs

Sounds good to leave him ready for dinner. If you need another idea, you could write a note / letter / photo story, long / short. Could show previous homes, with new home last. Affirm your love and state facts for him to read each time you leave, or whenever. Please update us!

Because his short term memory is affected it's falling on deaf ears so to speak with my father in law we just said see you tomorrow and took hi m in to dinner ad long as he was going to do something he was good it took about a month for him to settle in then he got sweet on a lady in the nursing home and referred to his wife as his ex wife