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Lymm, UK

Does anyone's family member suffer from paranoid delusions? I've just been to visit my mum in hospital and she was telling me all about how my dad mistreats her, hits her, ties her up, tells lies about her, etc. I honestly had no idea how to respond. She wouldn't be distracted and if I tried to contradict she started to get cross and frustrated. I ended up letting her talk (which was really difficult to listen to) but I'm worried that it's simply feeding the paranoia. Any advice???

June 22, 2016
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Members connected over the challenge of responding to paranoid delusions in loved ones with dementia, sharing the difficult balance between... Read more

Members connected over the challenge of responding to paranoid delusions in loved ones with dementia, sharing the difficult balance between validating feelings and not reinforcing false beliefs. Several members described practical approaches that have helped, including letting their loved one talk without contradiction, gently redirecting rather than correcting, using calming phrases like 'they're gone now' or offering to look for lost items together, and working with doctors to find the right anti-psychotic medication like Quetiapine to reduce agitation. A recurring theme was the emotional toll of being accused of lying, theft, or betrayal by someone you love deeply, the exhaustion of managing delusions that shift hour by hour, and the need for patience, faith, and professional support to navigate this heartbreaking aspect of caregiving.

A myALZteam Member

My experience is don't agree with these delusions, let her talk it out.If you try to correct her she will get frustrated and it will heighten the delusion.

June 23, 2016
A myALZteam Member

My mother says that she doesn't trust us, that we are trying to hurt her and we are the ones making her sick by giving her all the pills she takes. She as well thinks people have came in the house and stolled her things. I let her know that it might have been misplaced and we will look for it, then we are the ones that took it. Or what did we do with her remote for the tv. She hides things, and blames me or my daughter. This is an everyday challenge. We try to calm her down but to no prevail. We talk to her, but she ignores us.

July 25, 2016
A myALZteam Member

Plz seek advice from professionals in the field before it gets to a point when decision making is difficult. I am sure there is appropriate support out there.

July 7, 2016
A myALZteam Member

My mom accuses me of wanting to put her in an "institution" and threatens to have me arrested. I am her only child and she was my best friend. It hurts.

July 7, 2016
A myALZteam Member

There is no talking to my mother when paranoia sets in. Listen to what she is saying. Offer to make a snack while she continues to talk. I cannot change her mind or reassure her that she has nothing to fear. Medication helps calm her; but she still believes people are coming into the house, stealing, are going to harm her or throw us out. Exhaustion ssts in; we get ready for bed. Sometimes I am in bed at 4:30pm! Cannot do this without medication, and that takes trial and error. Such is this disease.

December 18, 2019

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