Sometimes if the love one becomes violent, aggressive and can harm themselves or others, it is very difficult to keep them at home, some families could not or do not know how to handle the situation and it is better for all to put the person in a care facility where they can get proper care. This disease requires a 24/7 care, and a lot of patience and love. You will either have to take turns with the family caring for your love one, or have some one there to do that during the day while you work, and them you take over at night, or somebody will have to stop working and become the sole caregiver. It is a very difficult decision not just emotionally but also financially. My mother just passed, she was with this disease for a long while and when she knew she was getting worse, she made the decision to move back to our country and were able to get a living person to help her while she was still able to do things on her own. The last few years, we took turns spending time with her and taking care of the things she could not longer do herself, while still having another person to do the everyday task. The last 6 months of her life were the ones that were very difficult, she lost the ability to eat, talk, and do many things on her own, but she still was strong minded. She just passed away, God took mercy on all of us and took her and released her trouble mind and soul and now she is resting. We were able to keep her at the house she choose to spend her last days. I don't think we could have done that in the US, it is too expensive there.
My Father-In-Law was a single guy living alone... When his dementia got really bad the doctor said he couldn't be left alone and needed 24/7 care... My husband, his son and I both work 40 hours a week... So, the only way to keep him home would have been to hire an agency of CNA's and companions to help him bathe, dress, eat etc..... The agencies would cost approximately $26 an hour or about or about $624 per day... not counting the cost of the home, groceries, heat etc.... The Nursing Homes in the area average about $350 to $400 per day... and he gets better care....... There is a doctor , an NP, and nurses on staff... The bring him his meals and deal with all his medical issues right there.... If you are home and not working,,, then you have a choice.. FOR US,.,,, The nursing home was cheaper and he gets better care... His dementia is so bad,, he doesn't even realize where he is.......
I have been taking care of my mother 74yrs me 46yrs for 4 years now. I always said never no home. I now be leave that she would be better in a afc home with people her age to interact with. we are both pretty miserable most of the time at this point. do it as long as you can but remember she would not want to take your life from you, and it will happen. my prayers are with you. good luck
I was one that always said I would never put my mom in a nursing home but unfortunately that really isn't something that anyone should promise anyone because there comes a time that you have no control but to go that route. I honestly had hoped we would never have to put my mom in a long term care facility but unfortunately that didn't happen. She got to the point that she could not get to the bathroom without an accident and could not take care of daily needs herself. My husband quit working to stay home with her, so I am the only one working full-time, but he has health issues himself and was at the end of his ability to care for her. It was very expensive to hire someone to come in and be there because she does need someone there 24/7 and there if no financial helps for this type of care. We checked out several facilities and picked one that is a not for profit/Church related facility and her doctor recommended as being the "Cadillac" of facilities. We also make sure that one of us is there on a daily basis at different times and make sure everyone knows that we are hands on with her and her care.
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