My Mother Won’t Stand Up On Her Own.

My mom is 83, living with us and has had dementia for 8 years. I believe we are moving into the final stages. She has started to not stand up/sit up on her own. If I ask her to stand up she will just stair at me and It can take a minimum of 10-20 mins to get her to stand or even try. It’s very frustrating when she is just starting at me and honestly I have yelled at her (not proud of that) to get her moving. I’m not sure if I should help her (which I do) or to try and let her… read more

How To Keep Mum From Trying To Remove Cast

Mum broke her arm just above the wrist (Colles fracture) two days ago. She of course cannot remember this or why she has to wear a cast and sling. We have caught her five times (including the middle of the night) trying to cut the cast off, once soaked it in a sink full of water. The hospital repaired it last night and loosened it a bit to decrease the swelling. Dad hid the scissors.

Has anyone else had this problem? Other than constant supervision, how do we keep Mum… read more

Locking Kill Dispenser

Mom still lives alone. She self medicates. Can someone recommend a good locking pill dispenser.

What Is Good Internet Service For The Elderly Without Paying Too Much And Smart Tv Vs Computer?

My mom has early-stage ALZ. She doesn't have internet service but she wants a computer where she can watch church service online because some of the churches in Atlanta, GA are doing online. I really don't know what to do because sometimes she forgets how to turn on the tv with the remote. She feels like she is left out in knowing technology, but I just don't want to get it and then later on she will tell me it's not… read more

Dealing With Questions About People Who Have Died

Every evening my husband ask about his Mom, Dad, Sister and it is like he hears that they are dead for the first time. Then he goes into a what a call a "zone" where he doesn't hear me~~wants the keys to go see them, tells me they are not dead, and doesn't know who I am. Gets really aggitated with me--not physical, but very emotional. Thinking of telling them they live in another state--hard for me to lie.

What To Do If They Will Not Eat, Play With Food.

Is It Ok To Let A Person With Alzheimer’s Sleep As Much As They Want?

My husband was taking a nap or two while watching TV during the day. Now he goes to bed at night around 9 pm (may get up once or twice in the night for the bathroom) but doesn’t get out of bed until 9 or 10 am. Then through the day takes several naps. I feel like he would sleep all the time if I wasn’t bothering him. Should I be concerned or greatful that I have a peaceful husband that the disease hasn’t caused to act out. I truly do feel… read more

Where Does The Authority To Decide Lay?

My mother was placed into rehab after a stint in hospital. She has Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia but is an amazing actress which tends to fool staff. Despite myself being the contact person for all mums needs the hospital allowed her to make the decision to check herself out without any consultation from myself or her geriatrician. She will also ring her bank and cancel cards etc. I just don’t know how to stop all this behaviour. I am literally at breaking point. She… read more

What's The Next Stage When Your Loved One Wets Their Depends And Don't Realize How Wet They Are?

I received an e-mail from the facility that my husband has completely wet his depends. He usually let's someone know when he has to go. He was tested for a UTI and kidney stones but was diagnosed with constipation. When my husband talks about his deceased father I know a decline is coming. He has been talking a lot about his dad for about 3 weeks. What should I prepare for if anything.

What Do You Do About Anxiety?

Tossing sheet, pillow, socks during the night.