"Sun Downers"

How do you cope with "Sun-downers". My husband wants to go "home" everynight. He even packs things he is taking with him. Every trick I know does nothing to help.

Does Anyone Have Any Ideas On How To Stay True To Yourself During This Trying Time Of Being A Full Time Caregiver???

Maybe this question was posted prior to my joining this site & if so, please forgive
My husband was diagnosed in 2012, & now needs me for everything. He sometimes gets angry if I leave the room. I don't feel like a person anymore. I don't get to be just me anymore. I don't get to do the things some of the things I used to enjoy. Sometimes I feel resentful, & angry at this disease. Sometimes I am angry at his children for not helping out even though I know in my heart they are busy with… read more

Stages Of Altzheimers

Hi all, just wondering how long other people have found from when they first noticed symptoms of loosing things and memory loss to when their loved one becomes incontinent and unable to do their own personal cares etc
My husband has shown signs of altzheimers for 10 years now and getting progressively worse over the last 3 and seems to have taken quite a dive in the last year. Also he was formally diagnosed a year or so ago. Doc says mid stage early onset (he's 62 now). He is very lost… read more

Does Anyone Else Notice A Lot Of Twitching And Jumping When Their Loved One With Dementia Is Sleeping During The Day.my

My mums limbs twitch and jump when she is dosing during the day.

Anyone Have Alzheimer's Patient Loss Vision

Teddy woke this morning you use the loo. I put the light on. But: he couldn't see. He told me he was blind. This went on for two hours. I finally got him to sleep a hour or so. When he woke up.. he could see again. He saw doctor . She said Alzheimer's can cause the brain to stop communicating with any part and resume communication

Suggestions To Keep Mom (severe Mobility Issues Due To Arthritis) Occupied?

My mother can't do any of the things she used to enjoy like cooking, reading, shopping, traveling. She can't follow plots or comprehend more than a headline. Although the tv is on all day she isn't actively listening anymore. To keep her occupied we have reorganized dresser drawers & her jewelry box, gone through boxes of photos & worked on the family tree together. She has short term memory loss but is pretty clear about family history & loves to talk about relatives & events from the past. I… read more

Caregiver Joy - I've Lost Mine

I am 52, and left my job in April to say home and care for my husband
He has 3 adult children. I have no children of my own
I'm a devoted and loving wife & partner.
My goals have been to keep M happy, safe and give him as much joy as possible.
Now, I'm struggling.... more than I ever have.
I've lost my joy. Any joy.
I am i his only caretaker, with him 24/7. I am able to leave him for an hour or so, but not much longer.
When I do leave, I worry constantly anyway.
Taking him places is getting… read more

Progressive Relaxation, Anyone?

Have caregivers used Progressive Relaxation as a way to reduce their own stress? This technique has you listen to a soothing voice (with calming music) while you systematically clench and relax various muscle groups. I had found this technique useful several years ago, but I plan on returning to its use now that I am responsible for my wife’s care.

Soooo...why Is It So Hard...?

Why is it so hard to be patient? I know it's not their fault. I know it is the disease. But why is it so hard to answer the same question over and over again? Why is it so hard to to listen even when they aren't making sense? Why is it so hard to not expect more from them? It's been more than a year. Why am I not better at this?

I don't expect an answer. Just sharing what's running through my head before it comes out as tears. Love and hugs to all of you going through this with your… read more

My Wife Is Being Obstinate About Showering And Teeth Brushing On A Regular Basis. Any Suggestions That May Help? Thanks