My mums limbs twitch and jump when she is dosing during the day.
I am 52, and left my job in April to say home and care for my husband.
He has 3 adult children. I have no children of my own.
I'm a devoted and loving wife & partner.
My goals have been to keep M happy, safe and give him as much joy as possible.
Now, I'm struggling.... more than I ever have.
I've lost my joy. Any joy.
I am i his only caretaker, with him 24/7. I am able to leave him for an hour or so, but not much longer.
When I do leave, I worry constantly anyway.
Taking him… read more
How do you cope with "Sun-downers". My husband wants to go "home" everynight. He even packs things he is taking with him. Every trick I know does nothing to help.
My mother has very restless nights, she wakes up between 1am and 5 am and tries to get up out of bed and wander, it can be 2-6x a night. Our worst nightmare happened three weeks ago when she got up and fell beside her bed and had a displaced fracture of the pelvis. She is on the mend but night time is a serious safety issue for us. I have ordered a bed alarm mat that works like a baby monitor that alerts us if she gets up off the pad as well as putting cushioned… read more
My Mum spent her life looking after other people and now she is poorly she has nothing to do. She has no hobbies or interests and she has a terrible back so is fairly immobile. This is not causing problems as her Dementia is progressing. She is teary in the afternoons and is generally depressed, she also gets very angry if we try to help her with things. It is so hard for us and especially for the kids (10 and 11) who want to do things with her but we have no idea what to do. She does… read more
Maybe this question was posted prior to my joining this site & if so, please forgive.
My husband was diagnosed in 2012, & now needs me for everything. He sometimes gets angry if I leave the room. I don't feel like a person anymore. I don't get to be just me anymore. I don't get to do the things some of the things I used to enjoy. Sometimes I feel resentful, & angry at this disease.… read more
My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in March 2016 at age 51. My heart is still breaking. I am 43, I work full-time and we have three children (18, 20, 22). I am scared to death of what the future holds :(
I am the daughter of a sweet mother (88) with dementia. I can absolutely not get her to bathe. She insists that she just took a shower when it has been at least 4 weeks since her last one. I have tried everything I can think of: telling her we will have a spa day and I will help her if she wishes. I bought her a nice shower mitt and shower gel and a stool to sit on while in the shower. I have tried a calendar showing her the last time she showered. She gets… read more
I help hubby to shower - don't have to wash him - as he sometimes can't work the controls. Plus I hand his showergel in to him and take it off him (and put it out of sight) as I discovered he was washing himself up to 3 times, having forgotten he'd done it!! If I don't hide it, he has come out of the shower to get it again!! I tell him he is rinsed but he continually argues, saying he doesn't 'feel' rinsed. It doesn't matter if I… read more