How do you cope with "Sun-downers". My husband wants to go "home" everynight. He even packs things he is taking with him. Every trick I know does nothing to help.
I am 52, and left my job in April to say home and care for my husband
He has 3 adult children. I have no children of my own
I'm a devoted and loving wife & partner.
My goals have been to keep M happy, safe and give him as much joy as possible.
Now, I'm struggling.... more than I ever have.
I've lost my joy. Any joy.
I am i his only caretaker, with him 24/7. I am able to leave him for an hour or so, but not much longer.
When I do leave, I worry constantly anyway.
Taking him places is getting… read more
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I help hubby to shower - don't have to wash him - as he sometimes can't work the controls. Plus I hand his showergel in to him and take it off him (and put it out of sight) as I discovered he was washing himself up to 3 times, having forgotten he'd done it!! If I don't hide it, he has come out of the shower to get it again!! I tell him he is rinsed but he continually argues, saying he doesn't 'feel' rinsed. It doesn't matter if I make him look at the clear water either, he's not convinced!! I… read more
I am the daughter of a sweet mother (88) with dementia. I can absolutely not get her to bathe. She insists that she just took a shower when it has been at least 4 weeks since her last one. I have tried everything I can think of: telling her we will have a spa day and I will help her if she wishes. I bought her a nice shower mitt and shower gel and a stool to sit on while in the shower. I have tried a calendar showing her the last time she showered. She gets very angry and nothing I can do or say… read more
Try telling her if she doesnt get in the shower or take a bath you'll hook up the garden hose and spray her down. Hugs and 🙏
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I am trying to figure out how to help my mother-in-law who has been with us 2 months.
I need an official diagnosis but would like more details on caregiving and what level she's at, and whether certain meds are affecting her paranoia. Need advice on psychiatric meds, etc. So do I go to appointments using HER insurance? Or go to my own psychiatrist and ask questions about her? (I don't actually have one) How do you manage these things?
And I'm afraid to say to her "you have Alzheimers so I need… read more
I'm getting frustrated with having to repeat instructions over and over again. How do others on here deal with this?