My Husband Is 83 And Has Alz. His Sex Drive Has Increased Exponetially! Do I Just Go Along, Find A Med To Reduce His Desire, Or What? Help!
@A myALZteam Member My husband’s worst symptom was hypersexuality. He was obsessed. He was totally inappropriate with staff and occasionally with other residents. With me, he was vulgar and insatiable. Finally he was put on Premarin, and that controlled his sexually insppropriate behavior. Before the onset of dementia, he had no interest in sex whatsoever.
Cheryl17 I’m going to make a huge assumption here becauae you asked a delicate question. I’ve been hesitant to reply or even bring up this touchy (pun intended) subject. My experience with my husband’s hyper-sexuality was not as pleasant. Our marriage included a great love life, but I didn’t find this activity pleasurable or loving. Maybe because I knew my husband was someone different now. At times I was afraid, which is kinda odd for me. So I asked his neurologist and calming medication was increased. Make sure YOU are comfortable. Cut back on watching movies that may cause “inspiration” and if you are not interested, put your diversion tactics to the test, like offering ice cream or a tasty snack. We used to joke about “looking for some strange” but to me, this wasn’t it.
My husband was the same way for about 1-1/2 years but that has subsided to nil. He doesn't remember how to have sex anymore. I went along with his early sexual libido. After all we are husband and wife and we enjoyed that part of him that was still able to physically show and receive love to one another. Like I said that is gone now. My advice...enjoy each other sexually and with EVERYTHING you did together. It will come to a stop someday.
After our most intimate moments my husband would talk to me as if I was someone else. Very heartbreaking! After being placed in SNF, there were problems with female staff. Medication has helped that. As we all know here, dementia is terrible. Ive wondered if frontotemporal dementia. Sexual aggression is a symptom. Is it for Lewy Bodies as well? He also acts out his dreams.
Thank you so much! I just didn't know what to do. I agree about enjoying each other in all ways. I'm sorry to hear that your husband forgot how to have sex.
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