So much to emotionally process at once...I think that's why your team members are suggesting pausing if it's possible before making a decision so important as leaving what has been your home. Otto thoughtfully raised a few issues to perhaps explore before deciding. I hope that your loved ones family can understand the depth of grieving you are experiencing. In the end you will need to discern where you will feel most comfortable as you travel this new road. Wishing you compassionate peace as you grieve and restabilize your life. Sending support. Take care.

@A myALZteam Member I got the impression from some of your posts that the condo belongs to or is financially part of your wife's family assets in some way or other. That may put pressure on you, and I get another impression, that the relations with your wife's family (daughter?) are strained. I don't know if I got all of that right, but regardless of the exact nature of those relations, I would suggest that you keep those issues in mind, and find out how they (her family) look at the question of you remaining there or not. In family matters, things can get out of hand quite easily (I had to take a close relative to court, and it wasn't nice).

Apart from those considerations, you are going through a major change and to keep yourself as comfortable as possible, staying there for a period of a year or so, would be best for you, if you can. Moving is always stressful, and you've got so much on your plate that you don't need even more stress. As @A myALZteam Member said, Move Slowly and as I added, get some clarity about your in-laws' ideas and attitudes.

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I agree with both ladies.
It is a difficult decision to make during a challenging time. My dear husband has now been in memory care for 2 months and I (at 75) am fortunate to be able to stay in my home for now.
Wishing you & all of us peace.

I would say if you are questioning keeping the condo, you should probably keep it until you are more sure about letting it go. It would not be a decision to easily undo.

I agree with the others. I have been advised to make no important decisions like that for at least a year because of grieving. We often are not emotionally ready for those decisions and then we regret them.