There is no reason to move if you don’t want to. Yes you can hire someone to cook or get Meals on Wheels delivered to your house. You can hire a housekeeper to come I. Every other week to keep the house up, you can hire a personal care worker to come in as often as needed at home. Some just need someone to come in a couple of times a week to do a shower and shampoo. Some need more. If you want to stay in your own home, their is help out there

Yes, thanks Helen. We picked out a place, I like the director and the lead nurse. They try to make it a happy place. If I don't go with her I'm afraid she won't eat.

My son lives in a facility, and it's more than just the cooking; it's also about having cameraderie and conversation when eating those meals. People aren't eating meal after meal, all alone, in silence. The facility he's in not only provides meals, but also provides medication management, housekeeping, personal care (as needed), social activities, plus on-site access to several of his care providers (primary care, psychiatrist, psychologist, physical therapist, and podiatrist.) These things can be especially important as people age, or have medical issues.

There are a number of couples who live there; and after one spouse passes on, it can be especially important for the remaining spouse to be living in a supportive setting that promotes friendship, because that can help to prevent the severe depression that can sets in from loneliness.

That said, a lot of it depends on age and overall condition. There's a big age difference between you and your wife, and my guess is that you're in good health, thereby making it a much different question for the two of you as a couple vs if the two of you were both around her age. (ie, it might not be for you.)

Muggsy, I wish I would have seen this before I moved my dad to our house. Sounds like you have great resources.

I'm 51% committed to going together. I think I'll commit to three months and then see what transpires. I haven't put down a down payment yet. It's only about 4 blocks away from where we live now.