Bob3, I understand your desire to put this off as long as you can, but let me share something that happened to a friend. Her husband wouldn't let her know anything about their finances, let alone put her on the bank account. He has been scammed several times, to the tune of over $50 thousand dollars.
I hesitated to put one more thing on your plate to think about, 🤔. As caregivers our plate is already overflowing.
Hugs.

Having more eyes on her is a good thing. My mom stayed in AL for a little over a year before moving to memory care. I wish I had been more insistent about getting into AL earlier. Maybe her transitions would have been easier. We need to trust our gut.

I have not posted in a long time but now that my mom is off denopizil and uped her sertilin the last 4 months have been very good. Memory not but much happier and not angry and is letting me manage thing for her. Would rather see her this way for sure. Did not want to chance another type of Alzheimer’s medication at this time due to the 6 weeks on the other medication pure hell.

That is true. Thank you for your insight.

I am so sorry you are going through this Mike. When my mom expressed distrust in me, it was crushing. Remember it is this horrible disease. Is your mom at home or at a facility? Have any meds been tried? For some people it can make a difference. Getting good care from a gerontologist or neurologist, very experienced with Alz is so important.

Give yourself grace and space if you can. You are there for her and that counts for so much. Hang in there.