Is there a drug that makes them willing to shower or bathe?

Maria, I have no experience with Haldol. My wife is prescribed for Lorezepam (Ativan) and Morphine. The combination of these two drugs keeps her within normal bounds of behavior.

My mother in law was on Haldol at the first nursing home. She was like a zombie. She went to a different nursing home where they didn’t use Haldol. She was ok, but still had Alzheimer’s of course.

It's a demented game, and I'm losing.

I hear you, CT. I was worried about embarrassing my mother, too, but after SEVERAL WEEKS of her not showering or bathing, I discovered that she becomes offended, angry, but never embarrassed -- because in her mind, she has already showered and *I'm* cruel or insane for thinking otherwise. She is blissfully ignorant of her own body odors and hides certain favorite items of clothing to keep me from laundering them. She likes for her clothing to "stay looking new" and thinks laundering "wears out her clothes." I have to catch her napping and then stealthily locate these highly aromatic garments so that I can launder and return them before she notices.