Hi Mary Sue! It is hard when the incontinence starts, and often, it is easy to jump to the “everything is awful” stage in our minds and in the minds of our loved ones. I would start with trying to figure out a schedule for going to the bathroom - you and the caregivers that help him can ask him if he needs to go to the bathroom every 20 minutes or so, as it might be that your husband is having a disconnect with his brain not recognizing that he needs to go. With my Mom, we also never transitioned between activities without seeing if she needed to go to the bathroom - if we were moving from the living room to the kitchen, we went to the bathroom. Going out to the porch, we went to the bathroom, etc, etc. often in the beginning, my Mom would say she didn’t need to go when she was sitting in a chair, but standing up shifted her bladder enough that she needed to go. One step at a time! Sending hugs and support!❤️

Oh you are so right about jumping ahead of myself. I’ll suggest that to all. He’s done so well for so long.

Well as quickly as it started , it has stopped 🙏🏼

It will get worse. Husband now wears waterproof underwear every day. They work well but they must be changed when they get wet, so you must be ready to check on him at least once an hour. We use Rite Aid, order online directly. Service is good, fast delivery. You will need to have a large stock when you see you’re using 4 or 5 a day!