I care for my step-father, and he is like this with my mother, his wife. He will not let her out of her site for literally no more than 1min and then he is up looking for her etc. He follows her around every day all day long. He will not go to bed without her even if it is just to take a nap. She cannot get any peace going to the bathroom as he follows her there as well. We had the doctors office tell us that this is very common with the disease and they do this primarily to one person in their life that they feel the safest with and will attach to them. They sort of treat this person as their security blanket. The reason is because everything in their life is changing because of this disease, and they are feeling insecure about it and scared, so they pick the safest person they know and use them as the security blanket as they feel safest with them. So they follow them because they are scared that they too are leaving them. So I guess if you think of it with these things behind it, you can sort of see and understand why they do what they do and in away I feel sorry for them and then feel bad for getting on them about tagging along my mother all the time. I know it's extremely hard on her as she gets absolutely no break from him, but at same time he has some bad issues himself. So what should we do???

Yep. Mom followed me everywhere especially to the bathroom. I could not begin to tell you what goes through the mind of anyone with AD even though I dealt with it for so many years with Mom. I stopped asking why long before I lost my mind. We actually used the same vest Mom had when she was in the hospital. They had to use a vest to keep her in bed. It was a robe type of garment with long ties in the back. We could "confine" her loosely without her knowledge in her chair littered with cards, photos and letters (mostly to her from me). I could get her to start looking while I was able to get some time alone for a few minutes averaging maybe 1/2 hour. That was big for us. She would try and stand but could not but she wouldn't complain since she could almost stand up but not quite. She thought it was her arthritis and I never said otherwise. Many blessings to you

Have you talked to his doctor about anti-anxiety meds?

Yes the only way I can get DH to stop following me is to sit in the same room with him. Too much sitting, but his eyesight won’t let him take walks. Music, tv, and talking about stuff that is only in his mind.

I'm going through the same issues!
The only difference is he still bathes every day. He claims he smells like an old man.
He needs to be able to see me at all times. Some days it don't mind but other days I can't stand it. I try my best to take one day at time. Stay strong!