My wife is 86 and has had the same problems yours has for the past 3 years and only got worse. I was helping her shower and many times poo would come out of her as she got in. I work and it was hard to care for her also. She now is in a nursing home with hospice. Many people hear the word hospice and think death soon. Not always. She has had their care for the past year. Look into hospice care because they can help more than caregiver and that comforts me a lot

Find someone that can sit with your wife. There are numerous people who work for non medical caregivers. I have one and she is a blessing.

Vcobb, my wife does have hospice and Medicare is paying for it, the difference for me couldn't afford to her stay at home also, most guy plan ahead but i was stupid. I thank the Lord she's safe and taken care of

How about hospice?they were a big help to me when my husband was at a similar state as your wife is as you describe They take a load off your shoulders for sure. They will have a volenteer stay while you go out by yourself to store or an appointment. Medicare pays for everything and it was a huge help to me.

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