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I Need To Know Where To Begin...
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My partner (age 75) has just recently began speaking to me as if I'm someone else. She references me as "she" or "her" while talking to me. I honestly don't know where to begin and find myself being very frustrated, more often than not. Advice anyone?

posted April 3, 2021
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A myALZteam Member

Hi BunnyLover! When my Mom was in the process of being diagnosed in 2014, the neuropsycholgist explained that words in the brain are grouped together so sometimes a person with ALZ will reach into their brain for the word “train” but say “drain” or “brain.” Or sometimes they will say “bus” or “car.” So your partner may be trying to say “I” or “you” but it comes out as “she” or “her.” My Mom sometimes speaks in the third person - “we want to eat” or “we love you” - to which I usually respond by calling her “My Queen!” 😊 That type of word jumbling is pretty common manifestation and it is entirely possible that your partner doesn’t know that it is happening. It can feel so emotional and frustrating and losing the ability to just have normal conversations with someone you love so much is awful. My Mom is getting to the point that she is very quiet unless I initiate a conversation and I find that I really just miss the sound of her voice. Sending you hugs and support and many deep breaths!❤️

posted April 3, 2021
A myALZteam Member

I’m so sorry - that sounds really hard. I know that many, many people here had trouble getting their loved one to go to a doctor. A great suggestion I have seen used by people here is to send a note to your loved one’s PC before the appointment with the concerns you have. It can help your doctor tailor the questions they ask your loved one and help bring up uncomfortable subjects around memory loss. And I completely understand when your mood effects your loved ones mood. I am a person who cries at sappy tv commercials and online church services, and I have to be careful not to let my Mom see me start to tear up! ❤️

posted April 3, 2021 (edited)
A myALZteam Member

Hello, I just posted a recommendation for a book that everyone should read. It's called 36 hours. I join the group a few weeks ago and I receive supporting suggestions. Welcome to the group and stay strong.

posted April 3, 2021
A myALZteam Member

Thanks. I will do that. She is my PC too and we have appointments same day, same time, but I will send a note to the doctor beforehand. I am just baffled that this came up so quickly and is making me question myself.

posted April 3, 2021
A myALZteam Member

Thanks. The "she" or "her" is a person (really me) that she describes in being angry at. She becomes agitated if I am upset. I don't know how to get her to a doctor, other than speaking to our PC, who she has an appointment with (virtually) in two weeks. She doesn't think she has any issues.

posted April 3, 2021

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