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How To Deal With Anger Of A Non Driver With Dementia.

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Hendersonville, NC

Thanks for this article. I am having a hard time with my spouse not being able to drive. We have been through this for almost 2 years now and his anger is difficult to handle. He has taken a cognitive test twice and has failed 2 times. He is angry with the doctor who wanted him to take the cognitive test in the first place. He has no concern about getting injured or injuring anyone else. He just says it will not happen. I have told him that since he has trouble with the TV remotes, he probably… read more

March 29, 2021
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Members rallied around a caregiver struggling with their spouse's anger over losing driving privileges due to dementia, sharing creative... Read more

Members rallied around a caregiver struggling with their spouse's anger over losing driving privileges due to dementia, sharing creative strategies that helped their own loved ones accept this painful transition. Several members described involving multiple authority figures, such as doctors and DMV officials, to deliver the message so the blame shifted away from the caregiver, while others found that hiding keys or selling the car eventually reduced conflict even if anger lingered. A recurring theme was the emotional toll on both sides, the lack of reasoning ability in dementia, and the importance of prioritizing safety while seeking support from family and community to navigate this heartbreaking loss of independence.

A myALZteam Member

You may have to hide the keys I am not experiencing the anger but I have lots of frustration I gave up driving six years ago because in a moment of clarity I knew that was dangerous I have issues with thinking I’m right when I’m dead wrong my family knows that’s just the way I think I wish you the best of luck and am sending love hugs and prayers god bless

March 29, 2021
A myALZteam Member

I had Dr and lady at DMV and his kids tell him they told him if he had an accident insurance wouldn't pay and we could loose everything. Probably not true but it helped. It's been over four years and he might not remember anything else but he reminds everyone they took away his car and he can't drive he blames them not me so that helps. We have been going this this journey for over ten years. Good luck! Hugs Pam

March 29, 2021
A myALZteam Member

We hid the keys and sold his car. He doesn’t know how to drive my car so my problem was solved.

April 18, 2021
A myALZteam Member

Great idea...we are working on it...my family is very supportive and we'll see what the MD says...Just want John and everyone else out on the road to be safe.

March 30, 2021
A myALZteam Member

Thanks Patty....your insight is so helpful.

March 29, 2021

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