Lorraine, perhaps a soup spoon would be easier for your husband to use. I had my wife use a spoon for a while because a fork was too challenging for her. Alas, we are now at a stage where she either eats by picking up the food in her fingers or I feed her. Good luck.

Hi Lorraine - I don’t have a solution for everything you mention, but I did get different plates when my Mom started having trouble with pushing food off her plate while she was trying to scoop it with a fork or a spoon. The brand Sweese has great dishwear that have raised sides that sort of give a lip to push up against when you are using silverware and rounded corners that help as well. We have the square dinner plates, but they also make round ones, too. Hope this helps!

There are rings you can clip in the plates that would help out. As for the fork how about both of you eating with a spoon and that way he won’t feel. different from you

My husband has the same problem so instead of a fork. We both started using a spork. I also found some dishes at a thrift store that have a small lip around the edge. I sit close enough and every so often turn his plate. He’ll laugh and say boy there’s a lot of food left.

Make sure the food is easy to eat: small pieces and portions. Eating with fingers is ok if it makes it easier for her. Put a napkin on lap to avoid mess on clothing. This is what I do. Don’t be alarmed in treating her like a 2 yr old, doing it lovingly is what matters.