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Retaliation From Co-Workers About Re: FMLA
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I have approved intermittent FMLA for my husbands dementia and my own serious illness. . I try to alert my coworkers when I can but if I have to take days off for an immediate problem I can’t always do that. Each year we have to turn in a detailed report of what we have accomplished. From July 2019 to Feb 2020, I have had times when I needed to accompany my husband to doctors appointments more than usual. I realized after I turned my report in (because I had not had enough sleep and had taken… read more

posted February 27, 2020
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It might be easier on you to move on from this situation and develop a way to keep track of projects and accomplishments going forward. Perhaps using an appointment book as a record keeper would help. At the top of the page you could write “worked” or “fmla” and under each note what you worked on or accomplished. Then you could write an accurate accounting of your projects when the time came. It also might serve as a reinforcer for you on days when you feel down hearted.

posted February 28, 2020
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I do know FMLA has very strict rules. Some businesses are not very flexible. I hope HR understands your issues and becomes more understanding and somewhat flexible. I know this adds to your already stressful situation. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

posted February 27, 2020
A myALZteam Member

If you have Instagram there is an online class today lead by Debbie Allen. She was in Fame and other movies and TV Shows. It’s 3 pm CST so adjust for your time accordingly

posted April 1, 2020
A myALZteam Member

Thanks for the encouragement everyone. After much thought, even though I’m working from home, I will be taking 24 hours of FMLA each week until I run out of time or this pandemic is over. I have found that I cannot care for my husband full time and work 40 hours a week or more. Making that decision has really helped me because now I don’t feel guilty if I don’t work 8 hours a day. Hope you all are well in this new normal.

posted March 29, 2020
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Thanks for the feedback, hugs and prayers . I have followed the requirements of medical certification and record keeping to the letter. The problem I have is that by my company telling me to get my report in on time regardless of taking approved FMLA leave, requires me to complete substantial work while on leave which is not allowed. If that’s the case, then it makes me hesitant to use the FMLA days I actually can. I can’t predict when a medical crisis will occur. I have driven my husband to doctors appointments, heard some not so good news, tried to comfort him decide what to do next and then immediately driven into work to try to meet deadlines when under better circumstances, I would have taken the whole day off to attend to our needs. I also have provided care as caregiver for my husband and used 2 consecutive FMLA days only to then come home and stay up all night to try to finish things. My own serious chronic health condition has worsened and my doctors are recommending that I take a block of time off within in the next two weeks. But I’m reluctant to because if I take several weeks off, I’ll be behind on my projects. As I write this, I realize it’s not healthy for me to ignore my own health. But I am the only person bringing in money and I can’t afford to be fired.

posted February 27, 2020

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