Oh, yes. Backache, headache like never before, chest pains, toothache. We make a LOT of trips to the ER! But, I’ve reduced them some. I have a vial of pills just for headaches the doc gave me. I always ask on a scale of one to 10, how bad is the pain? If it’s 8 or above I give him a pill - ONE pill. NO MORE for 24 hours. If below 8, I might briefly give him a head massage or a cold washcloth. Now these pills are real but you can find sugar pills and put them in an old medicine container if you know they’re in her head. For chest pain and difficulty breathing I check his vitals. If the blood pressure is way off or the oxygen level is too low we’ll go to the ER - he’s a big time heart patient. I can usually tell if it’s authentic. Most times his vitals are normal and it calms him down. If he persists with the breathing issues and chest pain I’ll give him a real nitro pill. If it’s not acute he’ll refuse it because he hates to put it under his tongue. For leg cramps it’s a Tylenol but mostly massage for a bit and propping them up on a pillow. It doesn’t always work, but worth a try, especially at 3 am! I hope some of this might help you.

Thanks! We have a mental list of her complaints and she dwells on them one at a time for a period of days or weeks and then moves on to the next one. We try to delay and say, we'll talk to the doctor tomorrow, that kind of thing. Especially if we know that the issues have been addressed. Distraction is the key, right? Trying to stay positive and not blame her for trying to manipulate, etc.

Good luck! My husband worries about every little thing that could possibly be wrong with him...Had an appointment with the podiatrist yesterday, and she reassured him that the tiny dot on one of his toes wasn’t anything life threatening! Sorry, but have no suggestions for you apart from not taking the complaints too seriously, and trying to distract her, but that is so much easier said, than done!!

Distract her from the complaint! Don’t say ,we’ll talk to dr tomorrow, try after she verbalizes complaint of the day, say, have you seen blue sky today? Or we should bake cookies, what are your favorite cookie??
I can’t tell , from your posts, if mom is a manipulator or not? Hope Not! That would add an entire dimension to issues already experiencing yes??? Plz let me know if you tried this responds and if it worked ok?
Hope you have a good weekend💜JDT

Hi Beckisue, It is great to hear different situations, medications, symptoms from other family. Whenever you see something NEW pop up
Don’t hesitate to share or ask questions. We have awesome group/team
Ok? 💜JDT