Yes, it's time. Expect great resistance, because he seems to be rather high functioning. Enough so that he continues to get himself in big trouble. You seem to be realistic enough to forsee the house on fire, the wondering away and getting lost, and any car keys that go missing. You are in for a fight, but it might just be a fight for his life!

Have you discussed medication with your neurologist. Some of his behaviors could be modified by the correct medications. I found a low dose of Lexapro which gradually had to be increased over time was very helpful.

Sending love to you. Hire a Care Manager. I just did. They will give you a plan of action for safety, agencies, grants for caregivers respite. Resources and great contacts and treatment you could never imagine.

Plus better placement referrals if your husband needs to go into long term care.
Get counseling for yourself and daughter. Ask care manager for better referrals for this.

You’re doing a great job. Cheering for you.
Mary💐

It’s so tough and I feel for you. I had the same issue with my mother and felt so guilty bringing her to a home. But it was getting so difficult and stressful at home, and I knew that it would end up making me very ill too from all the stress. After placing her in a home, despite the guilt, my home was no longer a place of significant stress for me and my kids (especially after a long day of work) and I could visit her several times a week knowing she was in a safe and caring place. Your husband might also enjoy the daily activities at a home as well as he sounds social. Wishing you the best.

Thank you for your response. You are correct in that he is able to be quite deceptive about his capabilities. He is very verbal, has no trouble with communication, super friendly and social. He can come off as just a bit confused or “ditzy.” But oh so charming. It’s when no one else is around that the disasters happen, the things get lost, etc. I can’t allow myself to get too comfortable because that’s when the unexpected happens. So instead I’m on pins and needles.