My husband doesn't believe me when I answer his questions...I also schedule the times he's available to mow a couple friends yards because I have to go with him and he says I'm trying to boss him and control everything..I tried to explain im trying to help so he can continue to do these things..then a heated argument ensues...one guy pays ahead for 3 mowings and I write down each time he mows but he thinks he's not getting paid ..I offered to call the guy and get paid each time and got yelled at… read more

My wife has been giagnosed with early dementia and is taking exelon.
She sleeps over 16 hours a day and I am wondering is this is related to the meds.

My mums limbs twitch and jump when she is dosing during the day.

I feel bad. I brought my dad into our home. He was a farmer. He had cattle and cats he watched over. It was getting expensive to let stay at home. Letting him stay at home by himself, wasn't an option anymore. At our house, I feel guilty. He's just sitting around like a rock on a log. He loves walks, cat rides, shopping, church and meeting new people. I tried to get him to feed our cat. Started out good. Now not so much. Sometimes, he will work on a puzzle. What do others loved ones… read more

I am trying to figure out how to help my mother-in-law who has been with us 2 months.

I need an official diagnosis but would like more details on caregiving and what level she's at, and whether certain meds are affecting her paranoia. Need advice on psychiatric meds, etc. So do I go to appointments using HER insurance? Or go to my own psychiatrist and ask questions about her? (I don't actually have one) How do you manage these things?

And I'm afraid to say to her "you have Alzheimers so I need… read more

What do most Doctors recommend? Do they keep them in these drugs till the end. I don’t see why.

A couple of days ago, I was given a 45 day eviction notice for my husband from the director of his memory care residence. She told me he should be in a skilled nursing facility, where they can keep him sedated. She told me that, even if another memory care decides to accept him, I’ll likely end up getting an eviction notice for him from them, too. But the nursing homes, I’ve contacted, seem to respond as if I’ve got my head up my butt. And they tell me they’re not equipped to handle dementia.

Memory care facilities advertise that they can take care of our loved ones, even to their dying day. But anyone who has a loved one in memory care, knows that, other than providing meals for them, administering their meds, and keeping them in a safe (locked) environment, there’s very limited “caring”. This works ok for the early stages of dementia. Not so much, as the disease progresses. Seems like the only choices are to add 1x1 private care or allow the facility to medicate them until they’re… read more

How did you know it was time to put your loved one in a care facility? Did you have a line in the sand? Some days I'd like to check myself in! Of course I'd like to wait as long as possible. My husband sleeps a lot, doesn't eat much any more and is losing weight. It's a battle to shower, etc... He's incontinent. Has no interest in personal hygiene. I have a caregiver who comes 3 days a week for 4 hours to take him to lunch, get a haircut, hear live music, etc, but in the past two weeks or… read more

Mom still can do her personal care for the most part. She does not use the kitchen anymore, nor does she drive or go anyplace unattended. Her spouse is taking care of her for the most part with help from my sister and myself 3 days a week. Mom is getting very frustrated because we can't always figure out what she is trying to say. She also thinks we are always talking about her or that we are plotting against her. She also believes her husband is fooling around on her. One time said him and… read more