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My Husband Still Has Sexual Desires But Unable To Perform. How Does One Handle This?

A myALZteam Member

posted January 19, 2019
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A myALZteam Member

Really difficult one. If situation occurs at night I will say, oh its late let's wait til morning when we'll both be refreshed. Usually he's forgotten by morning. Bit devious but works most times.

posted January 24, 2019
A myALZteam Member

Hi @A myALZteam Member.....difficult situation but there are medications to decrease physical libido so talk to your dr.

posted January 23, 2019 (edited)
A myALZteam Member

So glad to find this question - my husband is the same - morning, noon and night. Doesn't sleep well so he is always pestering me. I feel terrible rejecting him but also am feeling used - I ask if he knows my name and he doesn't. Hate the feeling of being nothing. Wonder if there is a RX to stop this. Husband is 75.

posted January 23, 2019
A myALZteam Member

Thanks for your reply. A friend recommended a helpful book. I now have it as a ebook on my Kindle. It’s titled “Finding the Light in Dementia . It’s a guide for families, friends and caregivers. It’s by Jane M Mullins. A good read.

posted January 21, 2019
A myALZteam Member

Me again Val....I think many folks may wonder and not ask re sexuality so there is info on internet re sexuality and dementia....I googled sex life with a dementia partner.

posted January 21, 2019
A myALZteam Member

Hi Val I struggle with this problem also. Yes, heavy petting helps but it does not give him sexual release and his dementia causes him to not understand why. I am a person who always tries my best to fix things and this is one that is beyond fixing. He seems to have these yearnings for a few days and then they go away for a while but then return. Like so many other aspects of the disease.

posted January 20, 2019
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Hi Val and welcome to great group for support and info. Sexuality in our older years usually changes physically even if dementia not a factor....illnesses like diabetes and circulatory problems can make intercourse difficult but there are all sorts of ways to caress and cuddle and touch that can please both. There is info online about sexuality as seniors and when a partner has dementia.....being a caregiver for personal hygiene would likely mean extra effort would be needed to put that aside mentally and do heavy petting as some of us did as teens.

posted January 19, 2019

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