Hi Val and welcome to great group for support and info. Sexuality in our older years usually changes physically even if dementia not a factor....illnesses like diabetes and circulatory problems can make intercourse difficult but there are all sorts of ways to caress and cuddle and touch that can please both. There is info online about sexuality as seniors and when a partner has dementia.....being a caregiver for personal hygiene would likely mean extra effort would be needed to put that aside mentally and do heavy petting as some of us did as teens.

Thanks for your reply. A friend recommended a helpful book. I now have it as a ebook on my Kindle. It’s titled “Finding the Light in Dementia . It’s a guide for families, friends and caregivers. It’s by Jane M Mullins. A good read.

Hi Val I struggle with this problem also. Yes, heavy petting helps but it does not give him sexual release and his dementia causes him to not understand why. I am a person who always tries my best to fix things and this is one that is beyond fixing. He seems to have these yearnings for a few days and then they go away for a while but then return. Like so many other aspects of the disease.

Really difficult one. If situation occurs at night I will say, oh its late let's wait til morning when we'll both be refreshed. Usually he's forgotten by morning. Bit devious but works most times.

Me again Val....I think many folks may wonder and not ask re sexuality so there is info on internet re sexuality and dementia....I googled sex life with a dementia partner.