I would, if you have the space, pack things in labeled boxes and only get rid of things you are ok with for now, and eventually let go of the others as you are emotionally able. I just finally got… read more
He is very paranoid and can get very combative. He is still living in a condo with my mom who has her own issues. Neither can take care of the other. My mom is all for moving into assisted living.
I have bouts of feeling like I am failing him too. Thats when I have "a little talk with Jesus" and that helps me tremendously. Pick yourself up when you have this feeling. Im sure your doing great.
My husband goes to the bathroom in his clothes (feces or pee). He doesn't want to take a shower or changes for days. When I try to help him he gets very angry. Doesn't matter how I address him.
So sorry for your lost. Thank you for your input.
I use the plastic grocery bags for soiled pads and Depends but i also keep a box of cheap garbage bags that i get at the Dollar Store in the garage. Then put that large bag out at the weekly trash… read more
My dear husband has now been having loose bowel movement accidents - very upsetting to him & a real downer for me to do the cleanup. This is limiting us going out & having friends over.
Thanks so much!
I can now get my dad to take showers when he needs too.
Not sure how he stinks so much. My question is how do you get your loved one to change clothes in the bathroom instead of his bedroom and then from his bedroom to the bathroom naked? Thank God, my husband hasn't seen that. It's bad enough for me! Sorry Dad!
@A myALZteam Member. If he smells a lot, he may not be doing a good job in the shower. I peeked in the shower when my husband didn’t seem to get clean. He wasn’t washing his hair and wasn’t doing… read more
How do you cope with "Sun-downers". My husband wants to go "home" everynight. He even packs things he is taking with him. Every trick I know does nothing to help.
My wife does the same thing. I found talking to her, walking around and showing her pictures of us in different parts of the house helps.
I feel bad. I brought my dad into our home. He was a farmer. He had cattle and cats he watched over. It was getting expensive to let stay at home. Letting him stay at home by himself, wasn't an option anymore. At our house, I feel guilty. He's just sitting around like a rock on a log. He loves walks, cat rides, shopping, church and meeting new people. I tried to get him to feed our cat. Started out good. Now not so much. Sometimes, he will work on a puzzle. What do others loved ones… read more
Sorry to hear that Muggy! Hugs to you! ❤️❤️❤️
You haven't convinced yourself that you did the right thing...and youDO have a life! You show your love when you are there.
My brother, who is in memory care, lost his hearing aids 6 weeks ago. These were very expensive as he was a machinist and has profound hearing loss since he was 3 yrs old. He had started taking them out and leaving them in other patients rooms, the community room, etc. And of course didn't know where they were. We got new aids yesterday. He seemed very excited and happy to be able to hear again. Today I hear that 1 hr after I left, his new aids were gone. He didn't know where they were. They… read more
Yes, decline is hard to watch and even harder to live with.