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Self Denial

Self Denial

No matter how many times she’s been told by numerous doctors about her dementia she is still in denial. She says things like “I think they’ve made a mistake”

A myALZteam Member said:

LET IT GO!! it ain't worth the arguments! ! With this disease, our peep can get away with murder!! You'll never win-you might, momenterally-but not for long!!! DAD get out of my house MUM this is my house too DAD no it isn't. IT'S MINT MUM I've worked all my life now paid halfor of this house-SO NO I WON'T GET OUT... it took us till years after this awfully stage to realise what we should have been doing! Dad didn't remember he was married to Mum.. in his head he was probably a kid-living at his parents...and this woman was in his house? When He wanted to go home....he really wanted to go home to his mummy. It's soo sad. Very cruel.

😂LET IT GO.... 💚💛💚

posted about 4 years ago
A myALZteam Member said:

I'm so sorry, my mom was like that, we had I think 4-6 Drs before she liked the last one believed him (he had honest eyes) Prayers for guidance and patience

posted about 4 years ago
A myALZteam Member said:

It doesn't just happen from one day to the next...😕😲 Dad gradually forgot , then maybe a few days later he'd recognise me. 😞Then a hour later he could look at me and say "are you my mother" 😢LOOKING BACK-THE BEST THING I COULD HAVE SAID WOULD HABE BEEN yes! Son. I am your mum😉 AND WRAP MY ARMS AROUND HIM AND HUG HIM TITE ❤
💚💛 security. 💚💛 he was looking for the security he had as a child😢 😢

I found it very hard to play the game with him. I felt I was mocking him.😦 but all I did by telling him I'M THERESA!! Your daughter😄 was confuse him more. One day he turned to me, looked me in the eye and asked me AM I YOUR DAD? HEARTWRENCHING💔💔💔

...GO WITH THE FLOW
PEEP X

And stay strong ... 💚💛

posted about 4 years ago
A myALZteam Member said:

My husband was diagnosed last month, he is 57. He keeps telling everyone that if he exercises and eats well he will be fine. I notice his decline every day. Last week he lost the sheets on the bed, when he found them in the dryer he said our son must have washed them. Our son is 20 and does not do his own laundry! If I try to correct him he gets argumentative. I have been doing a lot of reading and it is not worth correcting them or getting mad at them. It's not them, it's the disease. It's so sad.

posted about 4 years ago
A myALZteam Member said:

My husband has vascular parkinsons and dementia, and I have never told him because he wouldn't understand anyway! So why risk upsetting him?
We just plod on, dealing with each situation as it presents itself. There are two grand daughters, and a daughter in law that are professional carers, so I really have most of the answers on tap. Al though I have to admit that this forum is so helpful as well. The fact that I can sometimes help someone else, is also a feel good factor. I wish you all well.

posted about 4 years ago
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