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I Need Suggestions On How To Get To Leave Dad A Few Hours Without Him Getting Aggressive.

I Need Suggestions On How To Get To Leave Dad A Few Hours Without Him Getting Aggressive.

It is getting harder and harder for me to be gone. Dad gets argumentative with the care provider. Now he is scaring her. Friday 30 minutes with me being away she was in the bathroom calling me to come home fast. She is an experienced caregiver, employed by a local company. I had just picked my daughter up and going to do some much needed shopping and a little relaxing visit. I only have a two hour window of time. I don’t know what to do. I am fearful she will quit. Anyone else have this… read more

posted over 4 years ago
A myALZteam Member said:

Hi Lu,That one side effect is just as bad as the problem, because you will have no sleep. Your doctor should understand this, and amend his meds. accordingly.

No one can function without sleep, that is why it is used in torture, so don't do this to yourself, get it checked ASAP.
While you're at it, try and arrange some respite, with docs help if necessary.

We can pray all we like, but as Rabbi Green once said, 'Even god gets a bit overloaded up there, so how about giving him a hand?' . Take care!

posted over 4 years ago
A myALZteam Member said:

Just like a child, emotional blackmail. Remember? They use to play us like violins, and those suffering from dementia are no different.
Because certain parts of their brain is going, doesn't mean they can't make mischief for attention. Is there some way you can try a bit of reverse phsychology like if I don't go out you won't have..................? Something along those lines, play fire with fire!! Best of luck with that one!!

posted over 4 years ago
A myALZteam Member said:

@A myALZteam Member aggression can be very difficult to manage, especially by a inexperienced carer
Check out Teepa Snows videos on Utube she demonstrates some techniques on dealing with it. Hugs XOXOX

posted over 4 years ago
A myALZteam Member said:

I know when my uncle had Alzheimer's he was very aggressive I've heard men are more aggressive with alzheimer's than women. My mom is not that way but I make sure I leave her a note where I'm going and how long I'm going to be gone so she can keep looking at it. I have my number on speed dial on the phone so she can call me anytime.

posted over 4 years ago
A myALZteam Member said:

I wanted to post an update as to dad’s current situation. First thank you all for your comments and blessings. Dad’s doctor has put him on a new medication to assist with the aggression, but it has one side affect. If you ever wondered what goes through the mind of someone with Dementia just ask me. Dad currently speaks all his thoughts. Doesn’t matter if he is reading a magazine, the news posts, or if he is seeing something. I get a play by play of what is on TV. I get a play by play about what is outside. It is non stop. This along with up at 5:00, bed at 11:00 pm and no naps in between. Please pray for us.

posted over 4 years ago
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