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Sydney, NS

My mom has advanced alzhimers..She can go to the Mailbox 15-20 times a day to check on mail..She is considered a flight risk...Without having to lock her in which would adjitated her more, does anyone have any suggestions to curb this habit.Thanks in advance.

March 20, 2018 (edited)
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Members shared heartfelt experiences about loved ones with Alzheimer's obsessively checking the mailbox multiple times daily, with many... Read more

Members shared heartfelt experiences about loved ones with Alzheimer's obsessively checking the mailbox multiple times daily, with many expressing concerns about safety risks like falls, wandering, or rushing to catch the mail carrier. Several members offered creative solutions that worked for them, including posting a 'No Mail Today' sign on the door, installing a mailbox closer to the house or indoors with junk mail inside, using GPS trackers in watches or shoes, and reframing the trips as helpful exercise or purposeful tasks that maintain dignity and engagement. A recurring theme was the importance of balancing safety with compassion, finding ways to redirect the behavior without causing agitation, and recognizing that these small rituals often represent a deep need to feel useful and connected to their former routines.

A myALZteam Member

@A myALZteam Member Write Mom a letter supposedly "from the mailman" saying that he will always put her mail in the box for her. And keep the letter to refer to later when she wants to charge ahead. SHe will be thrilled and it might settle her some overalll.

May 5, 2018
A myALZteam Member

Can you give/leave her a piece of junk mail everyday or hang a false mailbox where she can retrieve it without going outside, like a mail slot in the door. Neighbor/friend can place it in the slot so she is not aware of where it comes from

April 6, 2018
A myALZteam Member

Thank-you for the advice and support, we posted a sign on the front door stating "No Mail Today" and it seems to be curbing moms need to be checking the mailbox.

May 10, 2018
A myALZteam Member

Leonard, I did not ask or deserve that response. My husband is 81, can't walk, has diabetes, and vascular parlkinsons and alzheimers, totally disabled.
I meant ignorant of your postal system, as this forum is worldwide. And you think I'm ignorant?

May 6, 2018
A myALZteam Member

My mom is also obsessed with the mail...I don't know how many times a day she goes out. Just today I was there when the mail truck came and she was upset she wasn't out there and acted like her mail wouldn't be left because she wasn't there to get it. I am concerned because in the winter I told her not to go out because I was afraid she would fall, but she doesn't listen...and now I'm afraid of her rushing and running to catch the mailman.

May 4, 2018

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