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Has Anyone Had Their Husband/wife Forget Who They (meaning You) Are?
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My husband recently had some antibiotic that really confused his mind. After 2 days of tablets he suddenly asked me where I'd gone - he was thinking I was somone else and 'his wife, Judy' had gone out on her own. He even took me in a room I use for dumping things in to make rest of house look tidy and told "me" to see what a mess Judy had left it in - so I told him to have words with her in the morning!. Fortunately knowing that confusion like this can happen I realised it was his condition… read more

posted February 14, 2018
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A myALZteam Member

Judy, My husband keeps asking me how may people live here (just he & me). He came into my house when we married 20 years ago but still thinks we don't live here. He wants to go "home" but can't tell where "home" is. I can't count the small piles of things he has packed up to take "home" when we go. I can sometimes appease him by telling him we'll go in the morning. This comes on just like turning on a light switch. One second he is fine and the next you can't deal with him. If I can get the Rx the doctor prescribed in him it helps. The problem is I never know when we are going to have one of those nights and when we are not. I don't like to medicate him if it isn't necessary. How does one know when its time to seek alternative living?

posted February 14, 2018
A myALZteam Member

Hi @A myALZteam Member, it wasn't meds for his dementia but antibiotics for skin infection. Looking on line they weren't recommended for elderly people as they could cause "mental unstability" - doctor agreed they weren't right for husband. I'd agree that anything to keep them at home as long as possible should be tried. XX

posted February 17, 2018
A myALZteam Member

If the meds noticeably help him, give it to him regularly..... give it a try before you have to send him away. Bless you.

posted February 17, 2018
A myALZteam Member

Thanks @A myALZteam Member, he is back to as normal as possible now but still sort of remembers the incident and has summised that it must have been my sister who was here whilst I was "out".

posted February 14, 2018
A myALZteam Member

Yes, I do the now routine. I tell him it’s too late, too dark, the weather is bad , I’m not packed....anything I can think of. It’s still hard because you have to continue with your statement. He never remembers.

posted February 21, 2018

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