The book “The 36 Hours” has some really good info on this- and much more. It’s like an encyclopedia about dementias , but in very readable form.

The only way! We go to bathroom together and I take off my clothes and by the time I am finished he has his clothes off and I help him in shower. The longer he stays the more he gets washed off. I never rush him.

I lay out my husbands clothes every night and when he wakes up I lug them into the shower and start the water (on days he’ll shower) . We do the 1 piece at a time and I help him throw the dirty stuff in the hamper. I find if I heat the shower room and run warm water it puts him more in the mood. Once he gets in the shower I can give him some independence, just peeking in occasionally.

I tell my Aunt that I will have to get home health services.She recently had them after a hospitalization .I tell her that they will come in to give her a shower if she doesn't take one on her own. It works . You need to find some type of barganing tool.

I tell my Aunt that I will have to get home health services.She recently had them after a hospitalization .I tell her that they will come in to give her a shower if she doesn't take one on her own. It works . You need to find some type of barganing tool.