She has a whole series on making the most of your visits. There are also videos by various care centre's that offer solutions on daily care. The approach we take can make such a difference. Our loved ones aren't being stubborn, or fighting us, they are fighting the disease.

I highly recommend watching the videos on YouTube by Teepa Snow. She has studied dementia patients for over 30 years. She has related each persons level of functioning to a gem. Each gem has certain things they can and can't do, and each needs to be cared for accordingly. One of her favourite suggestions is the comforting way to hold a person's hand. It shows you are with them and they are safe. We get frustrated with the person who is battling the disease, but just try to imagine the nightmare they are enduring.

I'm finding it hard to cuddle my husband as he wants to cuddle all the time and I'm very unwell and just need to rest. Wherever I am he wants to be beside me. I know I should be more loving as we have had a great marriage for nearly 55 years. I think stress is also causing me to feel unwell. I spent nearly nine weeks in hospital late last year and he went downhill quite badly while I wasn't here.

Thank you. I actually just watched that video. I need to share it with her caregivers.