It could be the time of day and every patient so different. I suggest as with small child or toddler. redirect their attention or say OH Honey let's walk over here and see something. E.G go with flow as best you can. But certain patients whether they were like that before or not may do that and just try to cover as best you can or look at those around and wink and say I'm so sorry. Something on that order. But don't sweat it - do the illogical if you have to.

Afternoons and evenings are the worst, so if you want less stress, go out in the morning and let them direct where they look. If they need you to tell them where something is, that's okay, but they may not understand an alternative...so what if you wind up with multiple boxes. Also, forgetting things is a blessing in many ways. My husband recently had a birthday and i gave him some socks and a card from last year and he didn't even remember getting them, so it saved me money and having to shop lol/sam

My Momma is getting meaner by the day. She was, for a while, just as sweet as can be. She loved all of us and would say so, a lot. Thing is, my mom was never a lovey person, so this was more disconcerting than the meanness is! LOL. Anyway, lately, she's just all over the place. She'll be mad as a hornet when she gets up, calms down, then, late afternoon, about when she's getting ready to go into her "Sun-downers," she will be almost uncontrollably mad. Restless, angry, mean. She cusses. Yells at everyone. Growls at our dogs... She'll get up to go to the bathroom, which she has to have assistance to do, won't do anything when we get in there, then, after she's back in her chair for 5 minutes, she wants to go again. I've found distraction only works some of the time with the anger. If she's being terribly rude to someone, I will usually tell her to stop, that she's not being nice, and she'll stop talking and pout. I have a few things I do that really calm her in other situations, like massage her legs with lotion, and if she's really bad, I'll do that. Or, a snack sometimes helps. She loves potato chips and Pepsi and I can almost always distract her with those. I've also found, that sometimes, once she's eaten something, she's okay for a few hours. I do wonder if some of the anger and restlessness has to do with her blood sugar. She's Type 2 Diabetic, but it's completely controlled with her meds. Honestly, she probably shouldn't have the soda, but I feel that the small spike in blood sugar is less dangerous than her thrashing about or throwing things. So far, I handle this stuff okay. I try to keep my sense of humor and usually do okay. Lately it's been tougher, but I think that has as much to do with being stuck in the house and not able to go anywhere due to the weather. She's cold all the time so getting her outside when the temps are this low is NOT going to happen. I have guilt, sometimes, too. I feel awful when she's messed herself and I realize I've gone several hours without taking her to the bathroom. Or, times she gets a rash and I don't notice it right away, before it's gotten bad. She's got such sensitive skin, this happens often. Mom's had this hideous disease for about 16 years and is now in the late stage. Does anyone have any idea how long the "last stage" normally lasts? I'd like to know what to expect, and her Dr never answers that question. I think he thinks it's an awful question, but I'd just like some idea what others' experience has been.

My mother can have temper outbursts that are incredibly distressing. I try to distract her by changing the subject but on occasion that can annoy her more. Its all about having as many tools in your tool box as possible and using whichever fits best for the occasion. When Mum is rude to a stranger, I will clearly say I'm sorry my mother has dementia. When Mum is rude to people she knows I tend to use humour to defuse the situation, such as 'Make way for princess Norah, when shes shouted at someone to get out of her way. I also use distraction when it is possible to change her focus. On occasion I will tell her clearly that she is behaving badly and explain exactly what she has just done or said. Then I move on to an activity before she can escalate the situation.

#joycekirk thank you for the good idea
Now to get him used to companions when I have to go out. I used to be able to leave him alone when I was only going to be gone for 2 hours. Now with him being wobbly I would not feel comfortable leaving him alone