Hi all, has anyone experienced the withdrawal and going into oneself after their loved one has had an injury. Mum had a bad fall and fractured her shoulder, the poor love is black and blue and unable to use to arm. She spent a week in hospital and is home again but she has no memory of the fall or been in hospital. I notice that she seems to be withdrawing into herself and her memory is heaps worse than before the fall
I keep trying to spark up an interest in her in things like her fav TV… read more
@A myALZteam Member I have had similar experiences when my mum needed to be hospitalized for a fractured pelvis , a cornea transplant and a severe UTI. I am with you. I will avoid the hospital at all costs. It took Mum a long time to recover after the trauma of her hospital stays. She was like a caged lion, aggressive and frightened. I don't want to put her through that ever again, and I don't think I could handle it again.
My sister became I'll, and had to be admitted to the hospital for gall bladder surgery. The stress of the surgery and being in the hospital caused a very dramatic decline in her cognitive abilities. Any stressful situation or experience can cause this decline. A few weeks later, she improved a little bit, but never got back to her pre-surgery condition. She also became very belligerent and combative while i hospitalized. This loving, gentle 95# sister of mine knocked me across the room, literally! The doctors felt it was an adverse reaction to a mild sedative they had given her to calm her nerves. She had taken the drug before, but as the disease progresses they will begin to react very differently to meds, especially diazopines. Overnight she seemed to lose much of her speaking ability, her trust in me to take care of her, and for the first time she didn't recognize me or her husband for several days. In the future, it will have to be a life or death situation before I take her to a hospital. It is just too devastating to see the effects on someone you love.
My mom also fell 4 months ago breaking her wrist and fracturing a vertabrae. ER visits are hard on her and there has been a decline since the fall, no longer walking although she was standing ok 2 months ago.
I am happy her days are better. Support workers, I am one as well. We have gone through so many. I hope the next one is better HUGS
It's so hard to tell when they feel pain. They do go into themselves. Also she holds her arms folded across her chest when in pain. Pain sets them back.