Thank you so much, I think we are going to tell her that it's just for a couple of days so we can have a rest, luckily the lift in her complex is out of order so she will be bored rigid and glad to get out! I think she is more worried that if she is there no one will know where she is but her grandaughter is down next week so that will be ok, I'm going to get her to take some photos with her and once she settled we will filter in some more bits and bobs. That has really helped make it a bit easier, thank you x

My mom never got over having to put my grandmother into a nursing home. I am sure I will feel equally guilty when I have to do the same thing to my mom. Right now she can take care of herself. Doesn't try to cook or drive. She has lost her memory and couldn't even remember where my stepdad was buried. We went there tonight to put flowers on his grave because the weather is supposed to be bad tomorrow. My husband and I are going out of town next week and will be gone for a few days. My brother will take care of her.

My mom never got over feeling guilty about having to put my grandmother into a residential facility. Grandma lived 10 more years after she was put in there. Mom also had no help because my job moved me away.

I had to put my dad in a care home in September, he was not safe in his own home alone even with 4 care visits a day. I told him he was going to a nice hotel for a couple of weeks round the corner from us as there were no carers available to come to his home as they were all on their holidays and that his GP wasn't happy for him to be home alone. I was guided by the care home and they said just take a couple of things in with him and obviously his clothes etc. I visited twice a day for the first week and he seemed to settle ok, took more items after a few weeks and luckily he has now forgotten all about his house and is in a routine, I only visit twice a week now as it was more unsettling for him to see me every day as it broke his routine up. I still feel guilty but I know he is safe, warm and being cared for 24/7. He sees a GP every week and has a nurse 24 hours at the home so the chances of anything happening or him ending up back in hospital aver very slim now which is a relief.

When my mom put my grandma into a home she felt guilty. She still feels guilty. Mom lives with my husband and I. She can still take care of herself. She can shower without any trouble. When she gets up in the morning she goes outside and gets the newspaper. Gets dressed, takes her medicine, feeds the dogs and lets them out. It does seem like she is afraid to stay at home alone when it gets dark.