Don’t make any large moves immediately. My husband was in memory care for 4 months and I had to bring him home as the place wasn’t caring for him properly. With dementia a new home would have been a… read more
I knew I couldn’t leave H alone when he began having great difficulty using his cell phone. He couldn’t make it work, even to answer when I’d try to call. One time I came home from a 30 minute… read more
He is very paranoid and can get very combative. He is still living in a condo with my mom who has her own issues. Neither can take care of the other. My mom is all for moving into assisted living.
I have bouts of feeling like I am failing him too. Thats when I have "a little talk with Jesus" and that helps me tremendously. Pick yourself up when you have this feeling. Im sure your doing great.
Mom still can do her personal care for the most part. She does not use the kitchen anymore, nor does she drive or go anyplace unattended. Her spouse is taking care of her for the most part with help from my sister and myself 3 days a week. Mom is getting very frustrated because we can't always figure out what she is trying to say. She also thinks we are always talking about her or that we are plotting against her. She also believes her husband is fooling around on her. One time said him and… read more
Dawn, there's a book that helped me when my mother had Alzheimer's and needed to move to assisted living. The Eldercare Handbook: Difficult Choices, Compassionate Solutions was a great resource when… read more
After 4 years of being my wife’s sole care-giver, her condition now warrants a memory care facility . Her geriatric psychiatrist told me over a year ago, her frontal-temporal dementia was “very advanced.” I’m in the process now of applying. Now I’m starting to think about how I’m going to get her to agree to go. Any suggestions from those of you who’ve already been there? Thank You
Yes, the socialization could help, but they could just sit and lie all day too. My sweetheart is ready for the last phase, but it's still years away.
My family just went through this. Sadly, only way to do so is to get a lawyer and it will need to go to court. That's the way it is in Mass.
Really, I wonder that people, especially those who haven't even so much as laid an eyeball on my loved one can ring me up and proceed to suggest their ideas about how I should proceed with the care of my mother. Sometimes in their mind, they are only trying to help us by wanting me to make the decisions and choices they themselves have made for their own loved ones
I am polite and show gratitude to them for their concern, but sometimes interiorly I feel privately insulted or… read more
Faustina2, don't get too caught up in what others think, especially if they are not offering to help. Don't dare feel guilty about anything you are doing for your Mom. Set boundaries for yourself with… read more
My father is in the moderate stage of Alzheimer's and continually insists on my mother moving out the house because he doesn't know who she is anymore. He refuses to voluntarily go into a memory care facility. Our local (very rural) area has stated he needs to agree to be placed in their facility. This doesn't seem correct considering my mother has the medical power of attorney. Any help would be appreciated.
We just had this happen with my father-in-law,,, 92 with Dementia.... Two years ago ,,, he said he always wanted to stay at home... Every time he was hospitalized ... the doctors documented that he… read more
About 5 years ago, my brothers and I sat down with Mom to discuss the behaviors we noticed and our concern. We asked her what her plan of what she would want if she could not live by herself anymore. Mom said she wanted to live with me, for me to take care of her and to make decisions for her. Largely, that is because I am her only living daughter. I promised her I would, even bought a house with a mother-in-law suite. My little brother moved in for about a year, which postponed her move a bit… read more
I know everyone going through being a caregiver that the circumstance will be different for each individual. My question is, in the late stage of the disease is it common to admit the patient into a… read more
We've been dealing with delusions for several years now. Primarily started due to dry Macular degeneration/Charles Bonnet Syndrome. It was torture! Now, with the Alzheimer's adding to it, it's just… read more