My father's decline has been slow and steady over the last 4 years. Suddenly, this past week he started sleeping most of the day, his balance became much worse, he is mumbling and he is repeating himself more than he was before. Is this sudden decline typical of Alzheimer's or could this be something else going on?
I can tell pretty quickly when my husband has an infection or something. We just went through pneumonia, then aspiration pneumonia then a huge hematoma from blood thinners. He gets very confused… read more
She gets angry with us (her children) for not taking her home. She has tried to leave on multiple occasions. She has packed up her pictures, clothes and other belongings. We are considering bringing her home because this is horrible. She is completely obsessed and irrational.
Some places allow monitoring cameras to be placed in the room, allowing you to monitor their care from home.
He is very paranoid and can get very combative. He is still living in a condo with my mom who has her own issues. Neither can take care of the other. My mom is all for moving into assisted living.
I have bouts of feeling like I am failing him too. Thats when I have "a little talk with Jesus" and that helps me tremendously. Pick yourself up when you have this feeling. Im sure your doing great.
Mom still can do her personal care for the most part. She does not use the kitchen anymore, nor does she drive or go anyplace unattended. Her spouse is taking care of her for the most part with help from my sister and myself 3 days a week. Mom is getting very frustrated because we can't always figure out what she is trying to say. She also thinks we are always talking about her or that we are plotting against her. She also believes her husband is fooling around on her. One time said him and… read more
Dawn, there's a book that helped me when my mother had Alzheimer's and needed to move to assisted living. The Eldercare Handbook: Difficult Choices, Compassionate Solutions was a great resource when… read more
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We do not get any help from VA or insurance.
I found the perfect Board and Care for my husband . My husband gets… read more
I really would like feedback on the pros and cons of having your loved one living in your home VERSUS assisted living/memory care facility.
I had to put my sweetheart in memory care, for Alzheimer’s he also has glaucoma has lost all of his site he kept getting up at night, I found him in the closet & the corner of the bedroom,I wasn’t… read more
My husband just got up for the day. It is 4:30pm. He had been in bed since 9:30 pm last night. What can I or should I do to change this?
I have been able to keep my wife to a schedule. I get her up between 7am and 8am depending on what we have to do that day. She wants to sleep late but I insist she get up. She will nap on the couch… read more
A couple of days ago, I was given a 45 day eviction notice for my husband from the director of his memory care residence. She told me he should be in a skilled nursing facility, where they can keep him sedated. She told me that, even if another memory care decides to accept him, I’ll likely end up getting an eviction notice for him from them, too. But the nursing homes, I’ve contacted, seem to respond as if I’ve got my head up my butt. And they tell me they’re not equipped to handle dementia.
… read moreButton, from what I’ve read here from several myalzteam members, whose husbands are in Veteran’s homes, the care sounds very good there. Assisted Living/Memory Care are only state regulated, and the… read more
I thought assisted living is NOT 24 hour care. Whereas long term care involves 24 hour care.
That helps a lot. Thanks Richard10. I didn’t know about the medication situation. That is something my husband would definitely need.
Memory care facilities advertise that they can take care of our loved ones, even to their dying day. But anyone who has a loved one in memory care, knows that, other than providing meals for them, administering their meds, and keeping them in a safe (locked) environment, there’s very limited “caring”. This works ok for the early stages of dementia. Not so much, as the disease progresses. Seems like the only choices are to add 1x1 private care or allow the facility to medicate them until they’re… read more
I have known caregivers who regularly went to Memory home after their patient to visit every day.....