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Do You Go On Vacation With Or Without Your Partner Who Has Alzheimers? Or, Do You Not Go On Vacation At All?

A myALZteam Member asked a question 💭
San Marcos, CA

My sister-in-law stayed at our house to take care of everyone & the dog while I went to visit my son in another state for 4 days. I can't take my husband with me. It's money I can't afford & the whole time would be taking care of him. None of us would enjoy this.
What do you do?

September 8
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A myALZteam Member

@A myALZteam Member, don't feel bad that John cannot travel any more or that you need respite from caring. It's not that you can't cope - you deserve a break and need it so you can continue to look after him. I feel guilty that my children take on the responsibility of their Dad's care to allow me some respite, yet who am I to deny them that time with him? They love him, too, so I have learned to accept that they are adults who choose to spend time with him while he is still here and knows who they are. Caring for their Dad is also their way of showing me that they worry about and love me. Your children love you, too. x

September 11
A myALZteam Member

I have 24/7 care for my mom. I haven’t taken a vacation bc even though she is well cared for I still stress about leaving. On the other hand, I am busy doing things I enjoy and seeing friends in Increments. It works for me but everyone is different I know. Take care.

September 10
A myALZteam Member

As long as you have someone to care for him, you did the right thing to leave him. I am lucky so far that my husband love to travel with me. He can't remember where we went or what we did, but in the meantime, he is having a good time.

September 8
A myALZteam Member

My adult kids wll take care of their dad for a few days so I can go and visit friends. Taking husband anywhere would be impossible. He'd be too distressed by travelling and being in a strange place. It wouldn't be a holiday!

September 9
A myALZteam Member

Dear MrsRobertsGmail.com, I really appreciate the points you have reminded me of. My adult children need time with their Dad and need to show their love for us both. This will be a gift to them as they grieve and deal with our passing in the future. I'm touched that they have become loving adults that we can count on. Sending you support as well.

September 12

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