You could try to deflect your husbands attention by saying that is less important for everyone to drive now that many companies deliver directly to your home. It is safer on the roads now because one delivery driver can serve 20 to 30 homes in a day so fewer traffic problems occur each day.

when Cercie would insist on going home at night I would tell him to wait until morning that I neither one of us could drive at night and that he was welcome to spend the night with me He could have the bed I could sleep on the sofa

Tina, I recently shared a similar story concerning my wife’s behavior in the evenings. @A myALZteam Member was kind enough to suggest it was sundowners. She recommended the following;

“ my understanding is that it usually starts around 4:30 in the afternoon and is marked by agitation, confusion and restlessness. Everything I've read says you should turn on all of the lights and close the curtains/blinds. This will make it seem lighter outside to your wife. Sounds doable and worth trying.”

I never really put 2 and 2 together but since she mentioned it, I have noticed a change in her behavior right at 4:30.
Since then I have turned on the 3 lamps in the living room along with the overhead lights in the ceiling fan. It’s lit up like a sports stadium now. Also, since Eva pointed this out, I try to be more attentive to her at this time, keeping her mind occupied.
It has really helped our evenings go a little smoother. Hope this helps... and @EvaNobal, thank you.

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Hi there, I asked Mom's Dr to tell her she could not drive any more. (This makes him the bad guy not the family< and keeps the roads safe). Dr actually first asked questions about how the driing really is and if Police have ever stopped her. Well Police had stopped her 2 days before , I know too that I was scared to drive with her the past months just beg=fore this. When we got home and took her keys,I let her call her other kids and vent and then someone spoke up that a grandchild was looking for a car to drive to work! They took it away day for about 4 months then my sister really wanted it so we changed the registration so she could buy it. My sister lives a days drive away and was happy to take it.

Hard choices but when we make it safety and a need for helping others, we can be supprised how simple it may be to do for them.

Keep Safe,
Sharon

I have been told it is easier for the doctor to tell him and let the doctor deal with him. My husband has been told not to drive many times and continues to drive and I cannot stop him. Finally the doctor submitted a form to the dmv asking that he get a road test. Fingers crossed he does not pass it.