My husband is in what I would say is the middle stage of Alzheimer’s. He has never accepted the diagnosis. In the early stages, when I tried to discuss this with him, he adamantly denied it and became so distraught that I stopped trying to discuss it. I decided then that I would never use the word “Alzheimer’s “ with him again (and I haven’t).Now, when he seems past the point of discussing it, he gets depressed and bewildered about what is happening to him. I gently suggest that he is having… read more
My husband’s diagnosis is vascular dementia. When he gets frustrated because he can’t do some thing he used to be able to, I just tell him that his brain does not work like it used to and it is not his fault. He seems to accept that.
We use the words neuro-degeneration. Less negative I think. I read somewhere there is a move to this terminology in the medical field.
Diane Snipes, Sorry for your loss. Can I ask you
How long did your husband have Alzheimers before he died? Mine was diagnosed 2 years ago.
Thanks in advance🌸
My husband passed away nine months ago !!! What I learned was they are scared !!! I told my husband our memory was getting bad and that we have to help each other more !!! A lot of smiles, hugs and staying calm they are looking for love and security !!!
My husband angrily denied his diagnosis too. Others said refer to Mild Cognitive Impairment rather than Alzheimer’s. I’ve also said things like “you can’t help the falling, it’s neurological”. Antidepressants have helped tame a lot of the anger and anxiety. He’s less combative most of the time, still can make the occasional mean, sarcastic comment. I don’t argue, was told not to argue, it’s like arguing with a child. I know it’s very frustrating, we have lost the spouse we knew. My pastor told me almost 2 years ago—-he is not able to have a healthy, adult relationship with you any longer. I have to do all the planning myself now. He wouldn’t talk about it before, can’t deal with it now.